10 out of 10 would agree 10 out of 10 people would agree that what that person did was not okay – or at least that was what I was telling myself. But, would all 10 really agree that what this person did was inappropriate? I didn’t actually survey anybody. I just made it up […]
We’ve all got our stories
September 25, 2018 by Leave a Comment
We’ve All Got Our Stories I’ve got a friend who is talented, kind, successful, loved, respected, appreciated, and blessed. And this friend also has a personality quirk that does not at all fit with the things mentioned in the previous sentence. I had wondered about this incongruity and then I learned his back story. Instantly, […]
The strongest force in your life ~ your self image
September 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Strongest Force in Your Life ~ Your Self Image Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho Cybernetics, said that it is impossible to out-perform your self image. It is impossible to do better than your thinking allows. It is impossible to do better than who you think you are. Your self-image determines what is possible for […]
The work to be done
September 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Work to be Done In a nutshell, the work I do with people is to help them see their lousy, limiting, disempowering, lie-based stories that they are telling themselves and then to replace those stories with better ones. Any time that we are hesitating, avoiding, procrastinating, under-performing, or resisting – it is because we […]
Identity Hit
August 20, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Identity Hit A recent client had taken an identity hit. About five years ago a few different things happened and he started to think less highly of himself, what he thought was possible diminished, his confidence and belief in himself decreased, and his joy and happiness took a beating. Of course, none of these changes […]
Relax already – we cannot see the future
July 29, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Under the influence
July 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Under the Influence If we were to drink several shots of tequila, we would not have any choice about whether we were impacted or not. We would be under the influence. The same is true when we habitually tell ourselves lousy stories. We don’t have any choice about it, we will be negatively impacted by […]
Procrastination always makes sense
July 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination always makes sense We can become very frustrated with ourselves when we procrastinate. However, when we uncover the lousy or limiting story that we are telling ourselves about that action or activity, we see that procrastination is always a perfectly appropriate response to that story. The cure then is simple. Tell ourselves a different […]
That’s not my project
June 21, 2018 by Leave a Comment
That’s not my project It is impossible for us to be responsible for anyone’s mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual well-being because we are not in control of their brain. But, we often try to be responsible. And when we do, we inevitably end up suffering. My mom is having challenges in all these areas as […]
Making sense of behaviors
December 20, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Making sense of behaviors Strange, perplexing, annoying, dysfunctional, and sabotaging behaviors all make sense when we uncover the stories behind them. Here are a handful of common stories behind some of these behaviors to illustrate this point: Procrastination ~ I’m not ready. It probably won’t work. I don’t deserve to have that anyway. I’ll do […]
