Step 1 in transformation The first step in transforming any area of our lives is to first be grateful for what we already have. If we are not grateful, we are almost certain to be in resistance, scarcity, or self-condemnation. These things push us in the wrong direction. They move us away from transformation and […]
The stuff is the path
November 8, 2017 by Leave a Comment
The stuff is the path The circumstances, the crap, the stuff that happens is the path to improvement. For example – becoming happier. Anyone can be happy in nice weather but it takes a pro to be happy in storms and foul weather. So, we learn to become happier by choosing to practice happiness when […]
It is your life and you are welcome to it
July 11, 2017 by Leave a Comment
It is your life and you are welcome to it Years ago, a friend told me a story about what happened at a personal growth retreat that he attended. The leader was working with one guy. And, the guy deflected, contradicted, and disputed everything the leader tried to point out. Finally, the leader said, “I’m […]
Over here over here (jumping up and down with arms waving)
November 4, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Over here over here (jumping up and down with arms waving) Imagine someone trying to get your attention from a distance. They are probably jumping up and down, waving their arms, and yelling “over here, over here”. That’s a good way to view our resistance – procrastination, hesitation, avoidance, I don’t want to, etc. Our […]
Extending the life of your willpower battery
October 10, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Extending the life of your willpower battery Will power is a very useful thing (statement of the obvious there). However, willpower works like a battery. When we use some there is less left until we recharge. Think of a flashlight. When the battery is weak, very little light is produced. When the battery is dead, […]
Let’s start with a lie
July 27, 2016 by Leave a Comment
How do I overcome what my brain sees as normal, a set point?
April 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
How do I overcome what my brain sees as normal, a set point? I was asked this question today and here are a couple of thoughts: It’s useful to view ourselves as sculptors. They take thousands of hammer swings as they chip away and the work of art emerges. Every swing moves the project forward. […]
OK to get paid
March 15, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Could It Really Be That Easy?
January 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Life is meant to be more than a list of chores
November 24, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Life is meant to be far more than a list of chores So many people accidentally turn their lives into a giant list of chores. Then they wonder why they are tired, bored, uninspired, apathetic, or even depressed. “Have to” is one of the main ways that people do this. “Have to” is amazingly toxic. […]
