We search for evidence that supports our beliefs and viewpoints all day long. And, we ignore inconvenient evidence that conflicts with our beliefs and viewpoints. Here’s a great example: I asked a client what was going well. She excitedly replied that she had gotten a new client earlier that day and that it was super […]
When Optimism Becomes Dangerous
Optimism is a great thing and . . . optimism combined with insanity, doing the same things over and over while expecting a different result, produces delusion which is not a great thing. I have an acquaintance who is living in delusion. He’s very optimistic that his business is about to turn the corner and […]
Resistance or Relief
Overwhelm almost always has us shut down. The secret to dealing with overwhelm is to break things down into smaller pieces. When you come up with an action step that produces a feeling of relief rather than resistance, you know you have broken it down far enough. It does not matter how small that piece […]
Free From The Good Opinion of Others
Years ago, I was listening to a Wayne Dyer program on cassette tape (that tells you how long ago this was). At one point he mentioned the 3 qualities of a self-actualized individual. I don’t remember what 2 of the 3 qualities are but I will always remember the impact the 3rd quality had on […]
Different is OK
A Lighthouse With Curtains???
Imagine a lighthouse with curtains. That wouldn’t really make very much sense. That light is meant to shine brightly, not be restricted by some curtains. Yet, I see this in people all the time – When we don’t embrace our own magnificence, when we don’t see our own value, when we ask, “who am […]