Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
Thinking of reasons to fully engage or to not fully engage
July 23, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Thinking of Reasons to Fully Engage or to Not Fully Engage We are either thinking of reasons why we shouldn’t fully engage (now’s not a good time, when ____ happens then I’ll engage, I’ll start tomorrow, and the like) or we are thinking of reasons why we should fully engage (I’m worth it, this […]
Under the influence
July 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Under the Influence If we were to drink several shots of tequila, we would not have any choice about whether we were impacted or not. We would be under the influence. The same is true when we habitually tell ourselves lousy stories. We don’t have any choice about it, we will be negatively impacted by […]
Obligation and False Obligations
July 8, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Obligation and False Obligations We often manufacture a sense of obligation. This then has us be trapped and not have freedom of choice. We cannot do what we want or what would be best for us because we owe someone. However, most of the time, these obligations are not real. They only exist in our […]
The cure for loss of momentum
July 6, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The cure for loss of momentum When we are driving, we lose momentum for all kinds of reasons – stoplights, stop signs, traffic patterns, detours, bad driving by others, etc. However, this is certainly not a problem. It is simply a part of driving. And, it is really easy to start regaining momentum – step […]
Procrastination always makes sense
July 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination always makes sense We can become very frustrated with ourselves when we procrastinate. However, when we uncover the lousy or limiting story that we are telling ourselves about that action or activity, we see that procrastination is always a perfectly appropriate response to that story. The cure then is simple. Tell ourselves a different […]
Bigger than our problems
June 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Bigger than our problems There’s an old saying about being bigger than our problems. What would happen if we took this literally? Think about one of your big problems. This could be with a person or a situation. Now notice that from your mind’s eye perspective, that person or that situation is bigger than you […]
Self-Confidence
April 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Self-Confidence Many people would like to be more confident. From my experience and observation nothing builds confidence more than recognizing what we did or the result we produced. Saying, “I did that!” is incredibly affirming, nourishing and, builds both capacity and confidence. However, most of us have been taught some nonsense about “don’t toot your […]
Defined by . . . ?
March 18, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Correction or punishment
December 30, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Correction or punishment Most of us, if not all of us, have experienced punishment in our lives. The message was clear – we were bad or wrong and needed to be punished. And, a lot of this probably happened in childhood which served to condition us towards a punishment viewpoint. This can lead to us […]
