Bungee cords and ladders Imagine having a bunch of bungee cords with one end attached to your waist and the other attached to the ground. Then imagine trying to climb a ladder. With each step up, the tension increases until “wham” you find yourself flat on your back on the ground. After a bit, you […]
Problem focus or creation focus
The Meaning of Stress
The Meaning of Stress Stress = misguided thinking that we are in charge of the results. Thinking this way is bound to stress us out because there is very little that we are actually in control of (with effort, we can be in control of our thoughts, feelings, reactions, and behaviors and that is pretty […]
I approve of me
I’m not into shame
Already validated
Already validated Imagine parking in a garage and then going to a restaurant that validates your parking. Then imagine that every couple of minutes you go to the hostess stand and check if you are still validated. That would be pretty silly. A much better plan would be to relax, enjoy your dinner, and trust […]
Resistance made simple
Resistance made simple When we are experiencing resistance, there is a 100% chance that we are telling ourselves some sort of uninspiring lousy story. If we upgrade the story, the resistance either goes away or decreases significantly. When we use resistance to uncover our limiting stories, then resistance becomes our ally. It helps us to […]
Peace Love and Understanding
Peace Love and Understanding Elvis Costello (the musician) asks, “What’s so funny about peace, love, and understanding? The funny thing (as in bizarre) is how often we choose not to experience peace, love, and understanding. Rather than peace, we frequently choose upset and hanging on to hurt. Rather than love, we frequently choose judgment and […]