Procrastination = Resistance We can always find a “good” reason to not do something. This procrastination happens because we have some sort of resistance to doing that thing – and often this resistance is happening at a non-conscious level, outside of our awareness. The resistance could be something like: It won’t work anyway What if […]
Harsh judgmental self-perception
July 26, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
Thinking of reasons to fully engage or to not fully engage
July 23, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Thinking of Reasons to Fully Engage or to Not Fully Engage We are either thinking of reasons why we shouldn’t fully engage (now’s not a good time, when ____ happens then I’ll engage, I’ll start tomorrow, and the like) or we are thinking of reasons why we should fully engage (I’m worth it, this […]
Reasons to divide or reasons to connect
July 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The confusion about forgiveness
July 18, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Confusion About Forgiveness Forgiveness is a huge thing for our peace of mind, our quality of life, our happiness, and our capacity to be blessed. However, people often have a hard time forgiving. This is because of a fundamental misunderstanding about what it means to forgive. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves not […]
No curses accepted here
July 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Under the influence
July 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Under the Influence If we were to drink several shots of tequila, we would not have any choice about whether we were impacted or not. We would be under the influence. The same is true when we habitually tell ourselves lousy stories. We don’t have any choice about it, we will be negatively impacted by […]
Hard Choices
July 11, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Hard choices We frequently mistakenly think that situations and circumstances determine our responses. “That thing happened so therefore, I must be angry, or hurt, or upset.” But, there are no mandatory responses. We can always choose something different, something that is more in alignment with who we want to be and how we want to […]
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman
July 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman In general, focusing on worst case scenarios is not a good strategy. However, for short periods of time, this can be useful because an examined worst case scenario is usually far less horrible than the imagined worst case scenario. That scenario tends to be straight from the mind […]
“We Need to Talk”
July 9, 2018 by Leave a Comment
“We need to talk” When we feel the need to point out something to someone, we can have one of two orientations. We can come from love ~ wanting the best for that person, wanting to uplift, wanting to bless the other person’s life. Or we can come from not-love ~ irritation, annoyance, disappointment, frustration, […]
