With or Without Resentment Have you ever had a time and situation in your life where you were doing something but resented the fact that you had to do it? Perhaps you felt obligated or figured that nothing would happen if you didn’t make it happen. That resentment is extremely toxic, especially if this is […]
Straw that broke the camel’s back
August 5, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back The best way to prevent a single straw from breaking the camel’s back is to lighten the load far before the camel’s breaking point. Another analogy along the same lines – if my cup is full to the brim, one more drop will cause overflow. But if I’ve emptied […]
Procrastination = Resistance
July 31, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination = Resistance We can always find a “good” reason to not do something. This procrastination happens because we have some sort of resistance to doing that thing – and often this resistance is happening at a non-conscious level, outside of our awareness. The resistance could be something like: It won’t work anyway What if […]
Thinking of reasons to fully engage or to not fully engage
July 23, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Thinking of Reasons to Fully Engage or to Not Fully Engage We are either thinking of reasons why we shouldn’t fully engage (now’s not a good time, when ____ happens then I’ll engage, I’ll start tomorrow, and the like) or we are thinking of reasons why we should fully engage (I’m worth it, this […]
No curses accepted here
July 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking
July 16, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking What would happen if we started to believe our own thinking less often? So much of our thinking is about limitation, reasons why not, self-doubt, and self-flagellation. Usually when we catch other people thinking that way, we know that it is garbage but then when it is our own thinking, we […]
Procrastination always makes sense
July 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination always makes sense We can become very frustrated with ourselves when we procrastinate. However, when we uncover the lousy or limiting story that we are telling ourselves about that action or activity, we see that procrastination is always a perfectly appropriate response to that story. The cure then is simple. Tell ourselves a different […]
Powerful choosing- we always have a choice
June 26, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Powerful choosing – we always have a choice Sometimes circumstances make it seem like we don’t have a choice, but we always do. In those times where the consequence of the one choice is too severe to even consider (which makes it seem like we have no choice), then we still have a choice about […]
Allowing vs efforting
June 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Listening to lousy messages
May 28, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Listening to lousy messages “Broken” by lovelytheband is a song that I’ve heard a few times. Today I actually listened to the lyrics and was horrified by the message. “I like that you’re broken Broken like me Maybe that makes me a fool I like that you’re lonely Lonely like me I could be lonely […]
