What are we setting out to find? We find what we look for. If I’m looking for a reason to be happy, I will find one. If I’m looking for a reason to be upset, I will find one. If I want to validate my story that I’m not supported, or I cannot catch a […]
Making sense of behaviors
December 20, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Making sense of behaviors Strange, perplexing, annoying, dysfunctional, and sabotaging behaviors all make sense when we uncover the stories behind them. Here are a handful of common stories behind some of these behaviors to illustrate this point: Procrastination ~ I’m not ready. It probably won’t work. I don’t deserve to have that anyway. I’ll do […]
Hanging out with goodness
December 7, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Hanging out with goodness Imagine that goodness is a person. Do you live your life in a way that goodness would want to hang out with you? Imagine that I invite you to come over and that when you get here, you discovered that my house is nasty, dirty, smelly, and cluttered. Would you stay […]
What can I do???
November 30, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Mental Resource Allocation
November 27, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Mental Resource Allocation Any thought or energy directed towards would of, could of, should of – is thought and energy that is not available for focusing on “what’s next”. This is a complete waste of our resources, has zero benefit, and creates a great amount of suffering. Instead, turn towards – “What is next?” Much […]
Meaning vs Victim
November 21, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Meaning vs Victim In his famous book, Man’s Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankl talks about how vital it is for our lives to have meaning. Without meaning or purpose we don’t have anything to life for. My mom is skinny, walks every day, and eats healthy – and, she had a stroke last week. Now […]
Outcomes we’ve never even considered
November 15, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Outcomes we’ve never even considered Probably everyone has an area(s) in their lives where there are possibilities they’ve never even considered. Here’s an easy example of this: Many small business owners don’t think about profits, they simply think about having enough to pay the bills and then pay themselves enough to pay the other bills, […]
The stuff is the path
November 8, 2017 by Leave a Comment
The stuff is the path The circumstances, the crap, the stuff that happens is the path to improvement. For example – becoming happier. Anyone can be happy in nice weather but it takes a pro to be happy in storms and foul weather. So, we learn to become happier by choosing to practice happiness when […]
Sand castles and 18-ton boulders
November 7, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Sand castles and 18-ton boulders When you are up to something with your life, you will experience disapproval (because you are breaking free from the masses). So then, the question becomes – How will you deal with that disapproval? Will you let it stop you or will you shed it like water off a duck’s […]
Our starting point determines our outcome
October 25, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Our starting point determines our outcome If our starting point is something lousy like: I cannot do this. I’m not worthy. This is too hard. I’m destined to be mediocre. Good things don’t happen to me. Etc. Than an undesirable outcome is all but guaranteed. Oftentimes the first step to success is in upgrading our […]
