Criticism vs. appreciation It does not take any more effort to look for things to appreciate in others than it does to look for things to criticize. However, most people are far more willing to criticize than they are to appreciate. It is their habit. Criticism comes with a cost that most people are oblivious […]
Excited Disappointed Bored
August 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Excited Disappointed Bored Reluctance to get excited ~ A condition that occurs because we have had experiences of being really excited about something. Then it doesn’t happen and we end up being horribly disappointed. Then we decide that it is too risky to get excited again. If we don’t look at this too closely, it […]
The right amount of rest
July 11, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The right amount of rest Every year we climb the Manitou Incline http://www.visitcos.com/manitou-incline-near-colorado-springs-colorado when my daughter comes to visit. The incline is 1 mile of stairs going straight up the side of a mountain and then a 4-mile hike back down. Yesterday Sabine decided not to go so it was just Sierra and I. We completed the […]
Our identity is a conversation
July 4, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Our identity is a conversation We create all kinds of limiting identities without even knowing it. We have stuff like: I’m the kind of person who struggles with money. I’m the kind of person who has limited success. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t get what he wants. I’m the kind of person who […]
Deep Identity
June 17, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Deep Identity Are you a saint that occasionally stumbles or are you a sinner that seldom gets things right? Are you inherently good or inherently bad? Are you a miracle or are you a screw up? Are you a winner or are you a loser? At a deep level, people all too often identify themselves […]
Upgraded Instant Replay
June 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Upgraded Instant Replay In volleyball you can play far better defense if you watch the hitter’s arm rather than the ball. When you do this, you can tell how hard they are hitting and where they are hitting before they ever hit the ball. If you watch the ball, you can only tell these things […]
Cigarette Ghost
June 11, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Cigarette Ghost Unfortunately, there’s not a ghost that follows us around and burns our arms with a cigarette every time we think our crappy highly repetitive thoughts. If there was, we’d quickly connect the dots that these thoughts are very painful and in no way make our lives better (in fact, they make life much […]
Talking in or talking out?
June 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The Of Course Continuum
May 23, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The Of Course Continuum Be honest with yourself ~ on a scale that goes from 1 (not a chance) to 5 (wouldn’t that be nice) to 10 (of course), where are you with achieving your goals? Unfortunately, “of course” is the exception. Most people are in some degree of doubt. However, that can be changed. […]
New Year’s Edition
January 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
