Obligation and False Obligations We often manufacture a sense of obligation. This then has us be trapped and not have freedom of choice. We cannot do what we want or what would be best for us because we owe someone. However, most of the time, these obligations are not real. They only exist in our […]
The cure for loss of momentum
July 6, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The cure for loss of momentum When we are driving, we lose momentum for all kinds of reasons – stoplights, stop signs, traffic patterns, detours, bad driving by others, etc. However, this is certainly not a problem. It is simply a part of driving. And, it is really easy to start regaining momentum – step […]
Procrastination always makes sense
July 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination always makes sense We can become very frustrated with ourselves when we procrastinate. However, when we uncover the lousy or limiting story that we are telling ourselves about that action or activity, we see that procrastination is always a perfectly appropriate response to that story. The cure then is simple. Tell ourselves a different […]
I believe in you
April 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
I believe in you Most people have learned to not believe in themselves. And, they learned this by accident through life experiences (no one sets out to not believe in themselves). Next time you catch yourself in this frame of mind, sit down quietly for a couple of minutes and imagine person after person telling […]
I must make things happen!
December 29, 2017 by Leave a Comment
I must make things happen! Einstein said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” But, many people live under an “I have to make things happen” orientation. This tends to produce stress, isolation, pressure and often leads to sadness, discouragement, and apathy. The “I have […]
What are we relying on?
October 31, 2017 by Leave a Comment
What are we relying on? When we are relying on ourselves and our limitations, it is scary to get out of our comfort zone. We don’t know what will happen. The outcome is uncertain, unpredictable, and unfamiliar. The situation can be bigger than we think we are. However, it does not have to be this […]
Listening
October 28, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Resolutions, Commitment, and New Beginnings
January 1, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Resolutions, Commitment, and New Beginnings It is January 1st. Change is in the air. People are optimistic about new beginnings and different ways of doing life. Commitments have been made. And . . . the optimism and the change won’t last unless they are accompanied by some deeper work. Our behaviors are driven by our […]
Lies create compulsive behaviors
December 31, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Lies create compulsive behaviors Often when we fall under the influence of a lie we then experience a compulsion to behave a certain way. And whenever we are compulsed, we don’t have the freedom to act in our best interest. Here are a few examples: “I owe them” can have us stay in a job […]
Reading is not enough
December 21, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Reading is not enough When I ask people if they have a daily personal growth program, I often hear that they read or listen to audios every day. While these things are great to do, we need more. We need to take that information and then turn it into introspection. We need to see whether […]
