Drastic reduction in suffering We are so quick to react and judge our immediate circumstances as good or bad. But, in order to really know what anything means, we would need to be able to see the future. When we judge the circumstances as bad, we get to suffer. A great antidote to this is […]
Nice vs Kind
July 20, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Don’t indulge
July 19, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Don’t indulge A client of mine recently told me that she hears my voice in her head saying, “don’t indulge” when she’s tempted to fall into self-pity. Self-pity, or any other form of feeling lousy, is an indulgence. We don’t ever “have to” feel that way. We choose to. And when we choose to indulge […]
Time to reevaluate
July 18, 2017 by Leave a Comment
“just”
July 13, 2017 by Leave a Comment
“just” Watch out for the word “just” in your thinking and speaking. It is an innocent enough sounding word that has tremendous power to undercut. It discounts, disempowers, trivializes, and makes us less than. Feel the difference between “it’s just me” and “it’s me”. Much Love, Jonathan Help me out please ~ if this Daily […]
Pursuing Joy
July 13, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Pursuing Joy Pursuing joy in making phone calls. Pursuing joy in cleaning the kitchen. Pursuing joy in taking the kid to the dentist. Pursuing joy . . . We can pursue joy anywhere we go and in anything we do. We can also turn all those things into chores and then suffer our way through […]
It is your life and you are welcome to it
July 11, 2017 by Leave a Comment
It is your life and you are welcome to it Years ago, a friend told me a story about what happened at a personal growth retreat that he attended. The leader was working with one guy. And, the guy deflected, contradicted, and disputed everything the leader tried to point out. Finally, the leader said, “I’m […]
Moving forwards
July 7, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Darth Vader’s less scary brother, Darth Cupcake
July 5, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Darth Vader’s less scary brother, Darth Cupcake “Darth Vader” that just sounds tough, scary, and evil. The effect would not have been the same if they called him “Darth Cupcake”. That sounds silly, wimpy, and even emasculating. We can do ourselves a huge favor by giving disempowering, silly, or emasculating names to those characters in […]
How in the heck did pouting get started?
July 5, 2017 by Leave a Comment
How in the heck did pouting get started? I’ve seen a lot of pouting lately, both adults and younger people. And all of these recent sightings have been at events that are fun. This got me to thinking about how weird and crazy us humans are sometimes. I know that I have never pouted myself […]
