In many ways, I see the work that I do as restoring hope to people that things can indeed be different and then showing them the path to create this. Hope: Yes, things can be different – radically different. When we change our beliefs, expectations, and mindset then what is possible for us changes too. […]
You Can Lead A Horse To Water . . .
April 20, 2015 by Leave a Comment
I end up talking to clients about this all the time ~ it is impossible to be responsible for another person’s happiness, success, feelings, etc. These are things that we cannot possibly control. Any and every time that we try to be responsible for another person will inevitably end up in suffering. However, there are […]
Venting vs. Recycling
March 18, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Sometimes saying something negative out loud can help us to let go of it. Sometimes it just needs to be voiced so that it doesn’t have to keep circling in our heads. However, if you notice that you are venting on the same issue again and again – you are not venting. You are recycling. […]
Art and the Law of Attraction
March 12, 2015 by Leave a Comment
My friend, Dennis, says, “I believe art is a universal language that feeds our soul and enriches our lives. If you aren’t involved in the arts in some way, there is an empty space in your soul that nothing else can fill.” dennispendletonstudio.com If our soul isn’t being fed, if we don’t make the time for […]
Toot Your Own Horn
March 7, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Many of us were raised under the admonition to “not toot your own horn”. This easily and frequently devolves into “don’t recognize your own value”. And when we don’t recognize our own value, we get in our own way – big time. Say out loud, “I have value to offer” and rate how that feels […]
The Eeyore Walk vs The Tigger Walk
December 10, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Want to hear something absolutely ridiculous? We have zero problems with engaging in negative self-talk but find it weird, strange, and awkward to engage in positive self-talk. That is RIDICULOUS! Every time I coach a volleyball clinic, we do a simple drill. I throw the ball at the person and her job is to pass […]
Blind Spots
November 17, 2014 by Leave a Comment
OK for others to contribute to me
November 10, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Say out loud, “It is okay for others to contribute to me.” Then rate how true that feels. For most people, this does not feel very true. Some people can hardly even say the words. We’ve got head trash about what it means to ask for help and about allowing others to contribute to us. We […]
Mock Comfort vs Real Comfort
November 6, 2014 by Leave a Comment
When we retreat from things that make us uncomfortable and take the easy path or let ourselves off the hook, we experience mock comfort. Sure we don’t have to deal with whatever that thing is which creates temporary short term relief. But, we have to deal with something else instead, something that is quite a bit […]
A Change Of Opinion
October 28, 2014 by Leave a Comment
A year ago, the boy we carpool to school with told my daughter that he did not like our Halloween decorations. Sabine was devastated. She loves our decorations. This was a chance to talk with her about not taking things personally. That this was just his opinion. It wasn’t right or wrong, it was just […]
