The inner critic Your inner critic – that voice that tells you that you should be doing better, should be farther along, should have already done that, should be perfect, that you aren’t living up to the ideal – actually has a positive intention. It wants to keep us safe. If we do everything perfectly […]
It really is about me
July 19, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Imaginary Debt
July 18, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Imaginary Debt People often mistakenly think that they owe someone something which keeps them stuck where they are. For example, I cannot quit my job even though I don’t want to be here because I owe them for hiring me in the first place. No I don’t owe them anything. The ledger is balanced. I […]
What if no one is misbehaving
July 17, 2016 by Leave a Comment
What if no one is misbehaving We cause ourselves so much pain, suffering, and other negative feelings by thinking that others are misbehaving. But what if they aren’t? On some level the behaviors always make sense. People are just trying to make sense of their own lives, get what they want, create happiness, and avoid […]
Blaming the thermometer
July 15, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Blaming the thermometer If the thermometer tells us that we have a fever, do we think that it is the thermometer that is causing our problems or is the thermometer simply an indicator that something is going on? Our “defective” behaviors are not the cause of our problems. They are an indicator that something is […]
Talking at or talking with
July 14, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Talking at or talking with There is a big difference in impact between talking at someone and talking with someone. When we talk at someone, we diminish connection and can easily bring up their resistance. When we talk with someone, we deepen the connection and bring down their resistance. Notice how these two phrases impact […]
Breathing is a good idea
July 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Breathing is a good idea My daughter and I spent about 4 hours today at The Epic Sky Trek Challenge, an aerial trekking course with over 110 challenging elements. Early on as I was navigating a couple of the elements, I noticed that I wasn’t breathing. As soon as I started breathing deeper, I relaxed. […]
The right amount of rest
July 11, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The right amount of rest Every year we climb the Manitou Incline http://www.visitcos.com/manitou-incline-near-colorado-springs-colorado when my daughter comes to visit. The incline is 1 mile of stairs going straight up the side of a mountain and then a 4-mile hike back down. Yesterday Sabine decided not to go so it was just Sierra and I. We completed the […]
The Other Shoe Meets Rube Goldberg
July 8, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The Other Shoe Meets Rube Goldberg There’s a common bit of head trash about waiting for the other shoe to fall (expecting that something bad will happen). If you happen to suffer from this bit of head trash, here are two ways that you can twist it to your benefit. What if the other shoe […]
