In order to better understand people, we need to understand how pain and pleasure motivate. We either move away from pain or we move towards pleasure. Moving away from pain is reactive and moving towards pleasure is proactive. Most of the time people are moving away from pain rather than moving towards what they really […]
A Change Of Opinion
October 28, 2014 by Leave a Comment
A year ago, the boy we carpool to school with told my daughter that he did not like our Halloween decorations. Sabine was devastated. She loves our decorations. This was a chance to talk with her about not taking things personally. That this was just his opinion. It wasn’t right or wrong, it was just […]
Make Hay While The Sun Shines – Fizzle or Sizzle
October 27, 2014 by Leave a Comment
The Other Gap
October 13, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Policies & Procedures For Life ~ A Guide To Live Boldly
October 13, 2014 by Leave a Comment
When we experience discomfort, we immediately have a choice to either shrink, retreat, and play it safe – or to expand, lean into the discomfort, and take bold action. Most people’s default setting is to shrink and retreat. This is not the way to create the life of your dreams and get what you want! […]
Underestimating The Importance of the Fun Factor
October 11, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Imagine taking the same action from two different states of being. In one state your energy is up, you are happy and you are having fun. In the other state your energy is down, you are grumpy, and you are not enjoying what you are doing. Although it is impossible to accurately measure the difference […]
It Really Isn’t That Scary
October 10, 2014 by Leave a Comment
When Optimism Becomes Dangerous
October 4, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Optimism is a great thing and . . . optimism combined with insanity, doing the same things over and over while expecting a different result, produces delusion which is not a great thing. I have an acquaintance who is living in delusion. He’s very optimistic that his business is about to turn the corner and […]
One Small Thought
September 30, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Free From The Good Opinion of Others
September 28, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Years ago, I was listening to a Wayne Dyer program on cassette tape (that tells you how long ago this was). At one point he mentioned the 3 qualities of a self-actualized individual. I don’t remember what 2 of the 3 qualities are but I will always remember the impact the 3rd quality had on […]
