Gnawed into mediocrity Imagine that you woke up and discovered a rat gnawing on your arm. Would you let the rat continue to gnaw? Would you tell yourself “it is no big deal” and go back to sleep? Or would you do something about it? When we listen to the little voices whispering guilt, shame, […]
Time Machine
Benefit of the doubt
Benefit of the doubt What would happen if we gave people the benefit of the doubt more often? Do you walk around purposely offending people or disrespecting people? Do you intentionally cut off other drivers? Do you intentionally hurt people’s feelings or try to make them mad? Hopefully your answer to these questions is an […]
It is your life and you are welcome to it
It is your life and you are welcome to it Years ago, a friend told me a story about what happened at a personal growth retreat that he attended. The leader was working with one guy. And, the guy deflected, contradicted, and disputed everything the leader tried to point out. Finally, the leader said, “I’m […]
Moving forwards
Emotional creatures
Emotional creatures We are emotional creatures, not logical creatures. Our emotions run the show. Last week was a weird food week. Nothing tasted good or was filling. I ate more and more often than usual. And, I ate less healthy than usual. My thoughts about getting back on track and my attempts to use will […]
Flip that switch
Flip that switch I see this fairly regularly: A person thinks, “I need a break.” Then their actions start to become very ineffective, things keep falling apart, setbacks keep occurring, etc. They end up getting the break they said they needed but not the rest and recharge because they are flailing around in ineffective action. […]
Retaliation
Counter intent
Incongruent
Incongruent A friend of mine was recently betrayed. Consequently, he’s experiencing a lot of angry thoughts and revenge oriented thoughts. In talking with him today, he wanted to know how to get past those thoughts. One of the ideas I mentioned is that thinking and feeling that way is completely incongruent with who he wants […]