Effective Communication Effective communication (effective selling, effective speaking, effective relationship building, effective persuasion, effective discussion, effective asking for what we want) starts with us getting our attention off of ourselves and onto the other person or onto the “we” that makes up the relationship. If our attention is just on ourselves and how that other […]
Knighthood
July 30, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Are you a security risk?
July 2, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Are You a Security Risk? Imagine that I know some top-secret information and then I started telling people about it. There would be some serious consequences for sharing that information with people who did not have the proper security clearance. I would be considered a serious security risk. We all have top-secret information – our […]
Leadership and communication
June 17, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Leadership and communication It does not matter what we say until we have taken care of how we say it. Any communication that we deliver with a charge, with anger or frustration, or with negative judgment most likely won’t be received the way we want it to be received. Instead, that person will react to […]
GTD
August 1, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Two schools of leadership/ parenting/ supporting
June 20, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Two schools of leadership/ parenting/ supporting Is our fundamental premise that people are incompetent and need to be managed, prodded, motivated, and controlled or do people need to be unleashed and supported? The former creates dependency and hesitation. The latter creates independence and confidence. If you have created dependent people in your life then a […]
Coach gets his buttons pushed and pushes back
March 3, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Coach gets his buttons pushed and pushes back I’ve been thinking all day about a facebook thread I read this morning. It is a great case study. The volleyball coach made a substitution. The substitute promptly served into the net. The player who had been subbed for said, “seriously” and the coach heard her. She […]
Inconvenience
June 16, 2015 by Leave a Comment
I heard a fascinating presentation from Tom Tillapaugh, the founder of The Denver Street School. He said that the key to helping at-risk youth is to have people who are willing to provide sacrificial intervention to the point of extreme inconvenience. i.e. they need support and mentoring from already successful people who already have full […]
What does support look like?
June 3, 2015 by Leave a Comment
A friend is experiencing stress and frustration because the way someone is trying to be supportive of her doesn’t work for her. Instead of feeling supported, important, valued, and inspired – she feels uninspired, frustrated, and not believed in. Whether this someone is a boss, upline, parent, friend, spouse, co-worker, etc. – this is not […]
Stern Serious and Playful Serious
August 19, 2014 by Leave a Comment
