When someone has really stressed you out or pushed your buttons and you feel like you need a drink, here’s the cocktail I recommend: Equal parts: Compassion* Appreciation of diversity** Respect*** Humor**** Curiosity***** Modify to taste and enjoy. * I too have my quirks and foibles. I too make mistakes. I too use ineffective strategies at […]
Fix vs. Create
February 13, 2015 by Leave a Comment
A focus on the past leads to “I need to fix.” This automatically puts us into resistance and what we resist persists. A focus on the future leads to “What do I want to create?” This puts us into possibility thinking. When we focus on the past, then the past usually becomes predictive of our […]
Everybody Is Better Off
January 10, 2015 by Leave a Comment
In human interactions (which includes sales) either everybody wins or it does not work. Either everybody is better off or nobody is better off. Sure it might seem like there are situations where some people win and others lose. But since at our deepest levels we are wired to contribute and make a difference, the […]
1 Year Anniversary December 4, 2014
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Mock Comfort vs Real Comfort
November 6, 2014 by Leave a Comment
When we retreat from things that make us uncomfortable and take the easy path or let ourselves off the hook, we experience mock comfort. Sure we don’t have to deal with whatever that thing is which creates temporary short term relief. But, we have to deal with something else instead, something that is quite a bit […]
Winning The Marathon
October 30, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Crazy Idea
October 27, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Here’s a crazy idea: What if you decided to truly believe that your life is already good and that you are already successful and that you are doing fantastically well so far – instead of beating the crap out of yourself every chance you get. What would that be like? Much love, Jonathan Know someone […]
Smart Brain Dumb Brain
October 14, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Last week my daughter had a spelling and vocabulary test. That morning she was reviewing for her test and realized that she was not as prepared as she thought she was. She got very stressed out. Tears were flowing. And, she was trying to cram the info into her head. Here’s the thing though, when […]
Underestimating The Importance of the Fun Factor
October 11, 2014 by Leave a Comment
Imagine taking the same action from two different states of being. In one state your energy is up, you are happy and you are having fun. In the other state your energy is down, you are grumpy, and you are not enjoying what you are doing. Although it is impossible to accurately measure the difference […]
