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Jekyll and Hyde

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Jekyll and Hyde

Have you ever had a Jekyll and Hyde experience?

If you are living human the answer to this is – Of Course!

A Jekyll and Hyde experience is when you have a plan or course of action that you know would be good for you and would support you and then you go and do something completely different, something that is not good for you and does not support you.

Dr. Jekyll makes a plan and then Mr. Hyde takes over and things go to heck.  This is when you usually say something like:  What the “bleep” just happened?  Or, you start asking why:  Why did I do that?  Why didn’t I do that?  And so on.

Jekyll says, ” I ought to exercise, I’ll go for a run.”  Then Hyde takes over and 3 beers later Jekyll is wondering why he didn’t go for the run and why he drank those beers.

Jekyll has a plan to call clients this afternoon and follow up with them.  Hyde takes over, the afternoon is wasted and no calls are made.  Jekyll wonders what the bleep happened and where did the afternoon go.

Jekyll is often frustrated because he has good intentions and knows that these things would be very valuable and beneficial – but they do not happen.

Jekyll is your conscious mind.  Hyde is your non-conscious mind.  Whenever these two are not in alignment, Jekyll ends up frustrated and Hyde ends up running the show.

You have tried to fight Hyde so you know from personal experience that this does not work.  Hyde is just too strong he overwhelms you and takes over.

So, what to do?

It’s not about Jekyll becoming stronger or having more willpower.  Hyde simply takes over and that is the end of Jekyll’s plans.

You need to explore what is going on beneath the surface.  You need to discover what is that button that is getting pushed that has Hyde surface and take over thus thwarting your good intentions.

Then you need to reprogram that button so that Hyde stays hidden, so that Hyde does not need to come to the surface to ruin the day.

One way to reprogram the button is to inquire into:  what is my fear, what is my resistance here that brings out Hyde?  Once you have identified this then you can recontextualize and reframe the situation which, will give you different access to it.

A client of mine had a really hard time asking for sales.  When it came time to ask for the sale, Hyde would appear and consequently she wouldn’t ask for the sale.  We did some recontextualizing and reframing.  She saw that her job was to inspire people and that asking for the sale was really asking if the prospect wanted to get inspired.  For her this was a very different question and it kept Hyde dormant.

If you are not sure what the button is, what triggers Hyde to show up feel free to contact me for a complimentary Business Mindset Analysis.

In the Business Mindset analysis we will spend 15 minutes and take a look at what is the invisible brick wall that you keep bumping into that keeps you from succeeding.  We will look at what is it that makes Hyde appear.

A Walk With Money

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A Walk With Money

Money!  That’s a topic that is seldom far from people’s minds.

How do I get more of it?

How do I get my money to work for me?

How do I make myself attractive to money?

Your relationship with money, whether good or bad, whether fulfilling or unfulfilling, is primarily determined by what is going on beneath the surface in your non-conscious.

Here is an easy exercise to get a sense of your non-conscious relationship to money.  Once you know the status of that relationship then you can take steps to improve it.

Imagine that you are walking along a path in the park and that money is also walking in the park.

Where is money walking?  Is it even on the same path as you are on?  If it is on your path, is it walking the same direction you are?  If money is walking the same direction as you are, is there connect between you two or even some intimacy?

The Goal

Our end goal is to have you and money walking down the path together, hand in hand – close, connected and intimate.

This visual exercise is something that you want to work with over time and start to change, modify and move towards the end goal.

The Steps

#1 You have to start where you are.  If you and money are on different paths then that is where you start.  If you and money are on the same path but ignoring each other then that is where you start.

#2 Start taking small steps to change the situation.  If you and money are on different paths, invite money to come walk on your path or go walk on money’s path.  If you and money are ignoring each other, start to  <!– /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} h1 {margin-right:0in; mso-margin-top-alt:auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; mso-outline-level:1; font-size:24.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-font-kerning:18.0pt; font-weight:bold;} h3 {margin-right:0in; mso-margin-top-alt:auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; mso-outline-level:3; font-size:13.5pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; font-weight:bold;} p {margin-right:0in; mso-margin-top-alt:auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} –> surreptitiously flirt with money.

#3 Be patient, take your time, take small steps.  You wouldn’t get off your path, cross the park and get on another path to give an attractive complete stranger an exuberant bear hug.  Hopefully you would be a little bit cooler and smoother about this.  Make small changes.

As you do these things, you are building a relationship with money and a stronger connection to money.  The ripples of this can be profound.


Why Am I Not Getting What I Want?

You know about the Law of Attraction. You know how to work with the Law of Attraction and are diligently doing so. You are doing all the right things. Yet, you do not seem to be getting what you want. Why? What is going on?

If this is the case, one of four different factors is in play or possibly a combination of them.

These four factors are:

  • Focusing on what you do not want
  • The Law of Timing
  • Not really wanting what you think you want
  • Non-conscious programming

Focusing on what you do not want

We have an amazing capacity to focus on what we do not want. This causes problems because the basis of the Law of Attraction is that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on – whether wanted or unwanted.

Check it out for yourself. Just listen to people. Over and over and over they talk about what they do not want. “I don’t want to struggle anymore.” “I don’t want to be in debt.” “I don’t want to fight with my spouse anymore.” And so on.

Even if you know what you want, you could be focusing on what you do not want.

Take a look at your focus. What are you focusing on? Are you primarily focusing on what you want or on what you do not want?

If you are doing the latter, switch your focus to what you want. For more information on this see “The U-Turn” under the blog tab at JonathanManske.com

The Law of Timing

The Law of Attraction is a universal law. It affects everyone. Another universal law is the Law of Timing. Day follows night. The seasons change. The tide comes in and then goes out. Babies grow for nine months inside their mothers before entering the world.

Would you plant a corn seed today and expect to eat corn on the cob tomorrow? What about next week? How about in a couple of months?

Sometimes you just need to trust and be patient. You also need to keep on taking the right actions and continue focusing on what you want.

Not really wanting what you think you want

I often see this with my clients. On one level they want one thing but on another deeper level (that they are not aware of) they want something different. This puts them in conflict with themselves.

Ask yourself, “Is this what I really want?” and then sit with the question. Let it simmer and sink in deeper. “Is this what I really want?”

Pay attention to your body. Does what you want feel “right”? If not, there is something deeper so keep exploring.

Non-conscious programming

If you are not getting what you want, chances are very good that you have some non-conscious programming that is in your way.

Science has proven that 97% of what goes on inside your head is non-conscious programming. It is automatic, habitual and repetitive. Some of this programming supports you and some of it does not.

If you have a conscious desire that is in opposition to your non-conscious programming, it will be very difficult to achieve your desire if you achieve it at all.

That is why it is so important to know how to first identify and then change limiting non-conscious programming.

If you send an email to contact me, I will send you my article, “How to Change Your Non-Conscious Programming”.

If you want someone to assist you, I recommend: NLP, PSYCH-K, Hypnosis and one-on-one work with me.

Coming of Age

Coming of Age

  • Do you ever wonder if your best is good enough?
  • Do you worry that “they” will discover that you don’t quite measure up or even that you are a fraud?
  • Do you have a difficult time accepting and appreciating your successes?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, you are not alone. Most people have some degree of self-doubt and insecurity, which gets in the way of truly enjoying your life and career.

A major contributor to these dis-empowering thoughts is the lack of coming-of-age rituals in our modern society. If you have not been confirmed as a real man or real woman by family, tribe or society and subsequently initiated into that world, then how can you know that you are indeed a real man or woman? In the absence of knowing your place in the community of men or in the community of women, it is natural to doubt yourself.

The good news is: you can transform your self-doubt into belonging. Here is how:

  • Take a moment to get relaxed and quiet.
  • Close your eyes and put both hands over your heart.
  • Speak out loud, “I see and accept you as a man among men!” or “I see and accept you as a woman among women!”
  • Keep repeating this until you feel a change within you (probably a minute or two).
  • Do this daily for 7 days.

When you say, “I see you”, imagine the voice of your spirit, the voice of God, or the collective voice of your ancestors. Experiment and see which “voice” is the strongest or mix it up.

Until we talk again:

Know that I see you as a real man in the community of men.

Know that I see you as a real woman in the community of women.

Wishing you great joy and success in your life!

Jonathan

I imagine you know the importance of focusing on what you want. However, if you are like most of us, you often find yourself focusing on what you do not want. In effect, this has you headed the wrong direction.

Most people are really good at focusing on what they do not want. Test this out for yourself. Ask several people what they want and then listen. Very soon they will likely be talking about what they do not want.

The other day I asked a client what she wanted for her business. Within three sentences she was talking about what she did not want. She did not want to worry about cash flow. She did not want to worry about the business succeeding. She did not want to feel like she always had to be working.

She was focusing on what she did not want rather than on what she did want. This creates a problem because what you focus on expands.

The basic tenet of the Law of Attraction is: You attract into your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to. This is true whether you are focusing on the wanted or the unwanted.

Knowing what you do not want is not a bad thing. In fact, it can be tremendously useful. However, it is a bad place to stop.

If I am clear that I do not want fast food for lunch, then I need to take the next step and figure out what I do want. If I stop with, "I do not want fast food", there is no forward action. There is no possibility. There is no satisfying lunch in my future. I am stuck.

The trick to moving forward is to use the words "I do not want" as a reminder to ask yourself “What do I want?"

“I do not want fast food.” Well then, “What do I want?” Hmmmm, “I want something healthy, I want a spinach salad.”

In this example, I discovered what I want and now I can get it.

When you do this, you are making The U-turn .

You want The U-turn to become automatic so that as soon as you hear yourself say, "I do not want" you immediately ask yourself, "Well then, what do I want?"

The more often you make The U-turn , the better your life becomes!