Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
Thinking of reasons to fully engage or to not fully engage
Thinking of Reasons to Fully Engage or to Not Fully Engage We are either thinking of reasons why we shouldn’t fully engage (now’s not a good time, when ____ happens then I’ll engage, I’ll start tomorrow, and the like) or we are thinking of reasons why we should fully engage (I’m worth it, this […]
Reasons to divide or reasons to connect
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman In general, focusing on worst case scenarios is not a good strategy. However, for short periods of time, this can be useful because an examined worst case scenario is usually far less horrible than the imagined worst case scenario. That scenario tends to be straight from the mind […]
Obligation and False Obligations
Obligation and False Obligations We often manufacture a sense of obligation. This then has us be trapped and not have freedom of choice. We cannot do what we want or what would be best for us because we owe someone. However, most of the time, these obligations are not real. They only exist in our […]