No Offense Meant I overheard a conversation today where the guy said, “no offense meant” and then he used a racially derogatory expression to a member of that race. Obviously, if we ever think “no offense meant”, we are about to say something that is going to be offensive. And, the best plan here is […]
Effective lies
Effective Lies If we have several tequila shots, we won’t have a choice about whether we are under the influence. We will be. The same is true when we listen to lies. We will be influenced. What are the lies that you keep telling yourself, or listening to from others, that are causing problems, pain, […]
Harsh judgmental self-perception
Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
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Obligation and False Obligations
Obligation and False Obligations We often manufacture a sense of obligation. This then has us be trapped and not have freedom of choice. We cannot do what we want or what would be best for us because we owe someone. However, most of the time, these obligations are not real. They only exist in our […]
Are you a security risk?
Are You a Security Risk? Imagine that I know some top-secret information and then I started telling people about it. There would be some serious consequences for sharing that information with people who did not have the proper security clearance. I would be considered a serious security risk. We all have top-secret information – our […]
It is your life and you are welcome to it
It is your life and you are welcome to it Years ago, a friend told me a story about what happened at a personal growth retreat that he attended. The leader was working with one guy. And, the guy deflected, contradicted, and disputed everything the leader tried to point out. Finally, the leader said, “I’m […]