A useful way of interacting with ourselves is to ask, “Does that view of myself or that self-talk pass the kindness test?” If I want to be kind to another person, would I say that to him or her? If the answer is no, then don’t say it to yourself either. Be kind to yourself!!! […]
Life Is Good
Peace of Mind Strategy
Do you want more peace of mind? If so, remember that others are not good or bad ~ depending on how they align with your opinions, values, and world view. They are just different. I often tell myself, “not good or bad, just different!” and I feel myself relax and let go. Much love, Jonathan […]
It Was Working So Well I Stopped Doing It
Imagine getting into really good shape and then stopping your workouts because you are already in shape. That would be pretty ridiculous. And yet, people do this all the time in other areas of their lives. Things are working so well that they stop doing the things that got them there in the first place. […]
Blind Spots
Sooner Or Later, You Have To Climb That Cliff
We Can Do Better Than That
There’s a group of people that I play doubles volleyball with. Partners are determined by the order in which people show up. So, we end up playing with different people all the time. Vlad and I have a history of playing really poorly together. We have been on the wrong end of quite a few […]
OK for others to contribute to me
Say out loud, “It is okay for others to contribute to me.” Then rate how true that feels. For most people, this does not feel very true. Some people can hardly even say the words. We’ve got head trash about what it means to ask for help and about allowing others to contribute to us. We […]
Friendly Universe
One of my most quoted quotes comes from Albert Einstein. He said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.” This choice sets our lives onto two very different trajectories. Now just because you believe you live in a friendly universe, this does not mean […]