Asking the wrong questions So often, we are simply asking ourselves the wrong questions. We ask, “What if it doesn’t work?” – instead of asking, “What if it does work?” The difference between those 2 questions is night and day. One inspires, invites action, creates energy, and expands possibility. The other shuts us down, creates […]
Escaping the pull of gravity
February 6, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Escaping the pull of gravity Here’s a great question: Did I get outside of my comfort zone today? If the answer to this question is frequently “no” then don’t expect your outcomes to improve. If the answer is “yes”, give yourself a pat on the back and then get ready to do it again tomorrow. […]
Thinking Test
December 11, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Thinking Test Here’s an easy test to determine if our thinking is on track or off track: Does our thinking entertain us? Does it add quality and possibility to our lives? If the answer is yes, then we want to keep on thinking the kind of thoughts we habitually think. If the answer is no, […]
The Wrong Bill of Rights
November 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The Wrong Bill of Rights Most of us are very committed to our rights – our right to be hurt, offended, wronged, abandoned, wounded, disrespected, misunderstood, to take things personally, to get our feelings hurt. What would happen and how would we have to think and behave if we forever waived our rights to these […]
Fiercely independent or stupidly independent
November 6, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Fiercely independent or stupidly independent There are so many people who have created a story that it is not okay to ask for help. Ironically, these people are helping others all the time but then are unwilling to ask for help or to receive help when they need it. If we were supposed to do […]
The right question
August 30, 2016 by Leave a Comment
The right question Do you spend more time asking what is right with me or what is wrong with me? Unfortunately, most people habitually do the latter. Whenever we do that, we pay a significant price in terms of happiness, confidence, self-worth, enthusiasm, productivity, effectiveness . . . Our brains are trained to answer questions. […]
Intend and love what is
August 8, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Two schools of leadership/ parenting/ supporting
June 20, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Two schools of leadership/ parenting/ supporting Is our fundamental premise that people are incompetent and need to be managed, prodded, motivated, and controlled or do people need to be unleashed and supported? The former creates dependency and hesitation. The latter creates independence and confidence. If you have created dependent people in your life then a […]
Being present by projecting into the future
June 12, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Being present by projecting into the future Be present. Be here now. Live in the present. We’ve heard this wise advice many times in many ways. Interestingly enough, projecting into the future can actually help us be more present now. If I’m feeling the invitation to check out or the invitation to not do what […]
