I had a big a-ha today. It is not okay for me to be hurt or feel hurt. (Kind of a guy thing but also kind of a human thing.) But here’s the thing, when I don’t ignore it but actually tune in, my shoulder does hurt. And of course I’ve been hurt many times […]
Redefining Loving Ourselves
June 20, 2015 by Leave a Comment
We often view letting ourselves off the hook or cutting ourselves some slack as loving ourselves. In some situations this is probably accurate but more often than not it isn’t. It is actually self-sabotage and self-damage. One definition of emotional maturity is doing the “right” thing even when you don’t feel like it. Usually in […]
Playing the Victim Card
June 18, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Sometimes it is awfully tempting to fall into the victim trap – I’m not responsible, it isn’t my fault. I’d be happy if _________ just behaved differently. I’d be successful if only ___________. No matter how tempting this might seem at times, remember this: No one has ever created joy, happiness, and fulfillment by playing […]
Inconvenience
June 16, 2015 by Leave a Comment
I heard a fascinating presentation from Tom Tillapaugh, the founder of The Denver Street School. He said that the key to helping at-risk youth is to have people who are willing to provide sacrificial intervention to the point of extreme inconvenience. i.e. they need support and mentoring from already successful people who already have full […]
Confusing Mile Markers With Destinations
June 15, 2015 by Leave a Comment
My daughter graduated from 6th grade today. Imagine her saying, “Well now that I’ve graduated 6th grade I’ve arrived.” Or, “I’ll be happy now.” Or, “Good, that should prove that I am enough.” That would be ridiculous. But that’s what we tend to do in our lives. “Oh, when I hit SMD/RVP/Blue Diamond/100K ring/top producer’s roundtable/etc. […]
Is Your Future Safe?
June 12, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Just for the fun of it
June 12, 2015 by Leave a Comment
100 years from now, no one will care if you were successful or not successful, happy or not happy, lived adventurously or bored yourself to death. So in a cosmic sense it doesn’t really matter what you do with your life. But it does matter to the individual! (Wouldn’t you rather lead a happy and […]
Two Thoughts on “Busy”
June 12, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Keeping a bunch of plates spinning is a metaphor that is often used for being busy. Keeping a bunch of balls in the air (juggling) is used too. In these acts, plates do get dropped. It’s okay. They just pick up another one, start it spinning, and continue with the act. Last summer at Cirque […]
Inspired Action
June 3, 2015 by Leave a Comment
What does support look like?
June 3, 2015 by Leave a Comment
A friend is experiencing stress and frustration because the way someone is trying to be supportive of her doesn’t work for her. Instead of feeling supported, important, valued, and inspired – she feels uninspired, frustrated, and not believed in. Whether this someone is a boss, upline, parent, friend, spouse, co-worker, etc. – this is not […]
