Leaving the past in the past We so often think that in order to change and for things to be different, we need to make up for the past. Yes, the past has got us to where we are today. But, the future is created in the now. For example, let’s say I want to […]
Buckets with holes
June 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Bigger than our problems
June 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Bigger than our problems There’s an old saying about being bigger than our problems. What would happen if we took this literally? Think about one of your big problems. This could be with a person or a situation. Now notice that from your mind’s eye perspective, that person or that situation is bigger than you […]
Take the upgrade (version 2)
June 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Take the upgrade (version 2) Imagine that you are an army general and your troops win a big battle. Of course, there was a huge cost to this. Then imagine abandoning that newly won territory and then having the same battle again a week later to reclaim that territory. That would be really bad strategy. […]
Force fields are way better than armor
June 14, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Force fields are way better than armor We were born loved and loving. Then we had some experiences, were judged, experienced disapproval etc and we started to forget the truth about us. Because these things hurt, we started putting on armor. However, the armor doesn’t really work. We keep getting hurt. We need […]
Allowing vs efforting
June 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Consistent with his vision
June 11, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Consistent with his vision Colonel Hadfield, an astronaut, knew at age 9 that he wanted to be an astronaut. So, he started living in a way that was in alignment with his vision. He asked himself things like – Would an astronaut eat a healthy breakfast or sugary cereal? Would an astronaut sleep in […]
Simple pleasures
June 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Simple pleasures If we cannot enjoy and be grateful for the simple pleasures, (like a smile, a sunrise, a hot shower, a comfortable bed, nature, etc.) then we probably won’t truly be able to enjoy the bigger things in life. And, the simple pleasures are available all the time. I may be wrong, but I […]
Attention is interpersonal gold
June 6, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Attention is interpersonal gold Our undivided attention is such a gift that we can give people. When we do this, we make them feel seen, valued, and heard – all of which are very important things to people. Think of the times you were trying to communicate with someone who was multitasking. How rewarding, how […]
Warrior or rebellious teenager
June 5, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Warrior or rebellious teenager All too often the rebellious teenager shows up instead of the freedom warrior. The rebellious teenager says, “I don’t feel like it” and “You cannot make me.” The rebellious teenager resists structure, routine, discipline, and commitment – just on general principles. The warrior says, “I’m doing it anyway because it is […]
