Perpetually Chased by Wild Dogs Imagine being constantly chased by wild dogs. It would be exhausting and nerve wracking Metaphorically, this is how most people do life. They are running around trying to prove that they are good enough, trying to prove that they are okay. It is exhausting and nerve wracking. It is also […]
Impossible to do better than thinking allows
November 19, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Arguing with a liar
November 15, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Arguing with a Liar There’s not much point in arguing with a compulsive liar. However, people frequently do this when they engage with the negative voices in their heads. “You are a loser because ______.” “No, I’m not!” “Yes, you are!” And on and on and on. A far better strategy is to quit interacting […]
The opposite of maturity
October 1, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Opposite of Maturity If we use indulgence as the opposite of maturity, then maturity can be defined as our ability to make wise choices due to our ability to delay gratification. Immaturity has us make a lot of poor choices because we want instant gratification without any thought to the long-term consequences. This has […]
We’ve all got our stories
September 25, 2018 by Leave a Comment
We’ve All Got Our Stories I’ve got a friend who is talented, kind, successful, loved, respected, appreciated, and blessed. And this friend also has a personality quirk that does not at all fit with the things mentioned in the previous sentence. I had wondered about this incongruity and then I learned his back story. Instantly, […]
The strongest force in your life ~ your self image
September 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Strongest Force in Your Life ~ Your Self Image Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho Cybernetics, said that it is impossible to out-perform your self image. It is impossible to do better than your thinking allows. It is impossible to do better than who you think you are. Your self-image determines what is possible for […]
The work to be done
September 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Work to be Done In a nutshell, the work I do with people is to help them see their lousy, limiting, disempowering, lie-based stories that they are telling themselves and then to replace those stories with better ones. Any time that we are hesitating, avoiding, procrastinating, under-performing, or resisting – it is because we […]
It is not up to us whether the fish bite
August 8, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking
July 16, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking What would happen if we started to believe our own thinking less often? So much of our thinking is about limitation, reasons why not, self-doubt, and self-flagellation. Usually when we catch other people thinking that way, we know that it is garbage but then when it is our own thinking, we […]
Allowing vs efforting
June 12, 2018 by Leave a Comment
