I approve of me Say out loud, “I approve of me.” When you say that, does it feel true or not true? We always find the evidence necessary to support our view point. So, we can either search for reasons to approve of ourselves, or we can search for reasons to disapprove of ourselves. Most […]
Sub-normal is the new normal
February 1, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Sub-normal is the new normal Remember back to when you were a kid. The sky was the limit for us. We thought just about anything was possible. What happened? There’s so much less possibility in most people’s thinking than they used to have. This reduced level, this sub-normal level, of expectation, optimism, hope, excitement, and […]
The root cause of all upsets
January 31, 2017 by Leave a Comment
The root cause of all upsets Every time that we get upset, get mad, or get our feelings hurt, it ultimately comes from believing that we are not enough. The triggering event reminds us that we do not believe that we are enough and then we get upset – with someone or something rather than […]
On My Own
January 30, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Brutality of disappointment
January 29, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Brutality of disappointment Many times, there are potential action items that we are uncomfortable doing. We can make it easier to do these things when we get honest with ourselves about how painful it is to be disappointed in ourselves. When we don’t do the thing(s) that would move us forward, we end up feeling […]
How willing?
January 28, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Winning minds by winning hearts
January 26, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Winning minds by winning hearts It seems to me that the most effective ways to win people’s minds is to first win their hearts. We can do that by helping them, caring for them, and treating them with kindness. There’s a great story in one of my favorite books, The Happiest Man in the World by […]
I am supported
January 25, 2017 by Leave a Comment
I am supported Many people have a story about not being supported. This perceived lack of support could be by a significant other, a parent, a boss, a friend, an upline, or even God. But is this story accurate? We will always find evidence that supports our view point. And in that process, we will […]
It is a new day – always
January 23, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Manufactured Infatuation
January 22, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Manufactured Infatuation Remember the start of a new relationship (especially when we were younger)? That special other person dominated our thoughts. All day long our thoughts would turn to him or her. We were infatuated. So, we know that our brains have the ability to think good-feeling thoughts all day long. What if we became […]
