Identity hit aka never the same again Have you ever had a life experience and you were never the same afterwards? This could be for better or for worse. (In this dose, we will be talking about for worse). If it is for worse, that means that your identity took a hit. In that moment, […]
And then the little wheels in our head spin – often making up garbage
May 9, 2018 by Leave a Comment
And then the little wheels in our head spin – often making up garbage We have experiences in life and then often the little wheels in our head spin and we make up a story. This story then impacts our behaviors and our outcomes. We don’t do this consciously or intentionally. It just happens. For […]
Hurt or Happy
May 8, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Hurt or Happy I recently talked to a guy who clearly would rather be hurt than happy. His happiness is 100% contingent on the person who hurt him changing. In effect, he is saying that the only possible way he can be happy is if that other person changes. Consequently, he is stuck in suffering. […]
Non-conscious allowing
May 7, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Non-conscious allowing We allow struggle, frustration, anxiety, and limitation in our lives. Of course, we don’t do this consciously or intentionally. But through our non-conscious programming, through the meanings we have attached to life experiences (both consciously and non-consciously), and through other head trash, we do allow these things in our lives. The great news […]
Quit deserving. Start allowing.
May 2, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Quit deserving. Start allowing. Any time that we have thoughts about worthy or deserving, there’s a 100% chance that we are caught up in some head trash. Imagine sitting in a coffee shop furiously wondering if you deserve to get a cup of coffee. Do you need to get someone’s approval first? Is it possible […]
Experiences Create Expectations
April 24, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Experiences Create Expectations Our expectations are often based on what we have experienced. And, this process tends to happen automatically and non-consciously rather than intentionally. So, we don’t even know that we have these expectations. This dynamic then often has us get in our own way because we create limiting self-fulfilling prophecies. For example, ~ […]
I’m OK so give the glory away
April 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
I’m OK so give the glory away Project CURE had its volunteer appreciation lunch today where Millie, Barb, and Dave received the Lifetime Achievement Award for over 10,000 volunteer hours (and I’m sure they have a lot more hours of service than that). First of all, how amazing is that! 10,000+ hours devoted to kindness, […]
You choose the movies of your life
April 13, 2018 by Leave a Comment
You DO NOT need to be fixed
April 5, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The dilemma of asking for referrals
April 4, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The dilemma of asking for referrals Oftentimes reluctance to ask for referrals comes from our need for approval and not fully owning our value. The head trash behind this goes something like this: If I really was good enough, then people would just naturally refer me. So, if I have to ask, that must mean […]
