Escaping the pull of gravity Here’s a great question: Did I get outside of my comfort zone today? If the answer to this question is frequently “no” then don’t expect your outcomes to improve. If the answer is “yes”, give yourself a pat on the back and then get ready to do it again tomorrow. […]
An incident in the parking lot
February 5, 2017 by Leave a Comment
An incident in the parking lot The other day I gave another driver the “you go ahead wave”. She did go ahead but she didn’t wave, smile, or acknowledge my gesture. This got me to thinking. If this isolated instance was an accurate portrayal of how she does life then she doesn’t have a chance […]
After the fact
February 4, 2017 by Leave a Comment
I approve of me
February 3, 2017 by Leave a Comment
I approve of me Say out loud, “I approve of me.” When you say that, does it feel true or not true? We always find the evidence necessary to support our view point. So, we can either search for reasons to approve of ourselves, or we can search for reasons to disapprove of ourselves. Most […]
Sub-normal is the new normal
February 1, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Sub-normal is the new normal Remember back to when you were a kid. The sky was the limit for us. We thought just about anything was possible. What happened? There’s so much less possibility in most people’s thinking than they used to have. This reduced level, this sub-normal level, of expectation, optimism, hope, excitement, and […]
The root cause of all upsets
January 31, 2017 by Leave a Comment
The root cause of all upsets Every time that we get upset, get mad, or get our feelings hurt, it ultimately comes from believing that we are not enough. The triggering event reminds us that we do not believe that we are enough and then we get upset – with someone or something rather than […]
On My Own
January 30, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Brutality of disappointment
January 29, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Brutality of disappointment Many times, there are potential action items that we are uncomfortable doing. We can make it easier to do these things when we get honest with ourselves about how painful it is to be disappointed in ourselves. When we don’t do the thing(s) that would move us forward, we end up feeling […]
How willing?
January 28, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Winning minds by winning hearts
January 26, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Winning minds by winning hearts It seems to me that the most effective ways to win people’s minds is to first win their hearts. We can do that by helping them, caring for them, and treating them with kindness. There’s a great story in one of my favorite books, The Happiest Man in the World by […]
