What are we setting out to find? We find what we look for. If I’m looking for a reason to be happy, I will find one. If I’m looking for a reason to be upset, I will find one. If I want to validate my story that I’m not supported, or I cannot catch a […]
Born to be a pack mule?
December 28, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Born to be a pack mule? We were not born to be pack mules so why are we carrying these tremendous burdens all over the place. We are carrying burdens that were never ours to carry. We carry burdens from trying to be responsible for other people’s lives, moods, happiness, and success. We carry other’s […]
Disappointment and what is next
December 26, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Disappointment and what is next Sooner or later, we are going to experience disappointment. Maybe you didn’t get the Christmas present that you wanted. Maybe your sure-fire prospect said “no”. Maybe something did not go at all the way you expected and hoped that it would. It could be over a big thing or over […]
Making sense of behaviors
December 20, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Making sense of behaviors Strange, perplexing, annoying, dysfunctional, and sabotaging behaviors all make sense when we uncover the stories behind them. Here are a handful of common stories behind some of these behaviors to illustrate this point: Procrastination ~ I’m not ready. It probably won’t work. I don’t deserve to have that anyway. I’ll do […]
Allowing
December 19, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Celebrating wins and progress
December 17, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Celebrating wins and progress It is so important to celebrate progress – even the little things! My mom had a stroke a little over 4 weeks ago. Last week in physical therapy, she walked 90 feet with only a little assistance. The week before that, she couldn’t move her right leg. So, that is a […]
Tarnished vs broken
December 14, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Tarnished vs broken A very common trap that people fall into is thinking that they are bad or wrong or broken or need to be fixed. This means that they believe that something is wrong with them at a fundamental level of their being. This perspective is inaccurate and very damaging. Imagine a silver platter […]
How to know when you have arrived
December 13, 2017 by Leave a Comment
How to know when you have arrived You will know that you have arrived when they lower your coffin into the ground. Until then, there’s always up from here. There’s always more path to journey. There are greater levels of happiness, contribution, and success than where we are now. We can always become better people, […]
Seekers and finders
December 12, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Hanging out with goodness
December 7, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Hanging out with goodness Imagine that goodness is a person. Do you live your life in a way that goodness would want to hang out with you? Imagine that I invite you to come over and that when you get here, you discovered that my house is nasty, dirty, smelly, and cluttered. Would you stay […]
