Victim Mode / Creator Mode

We become so helpless when we slip into victim mode – after all, we are the victim here so there’s nothing we can do about things. All we can hope for is that an external force comes along to change things on our behalf.

When we are in creator mode, there are so many things we can do on our own behalf.

Here’s an easy example to illustrate this point: Let’s say that your significant other often leaves the house without saying good bye and that this bothers you.

In victim mode, you just get to suffer. There’s nothing you can do about it. Almost certainly you will make up some sort of story about him or her and how you are not loved or appreciated. “I’m not even important enough to take up space in his or her mind. I am totally taken for granted.” Etc.

In creator mode, there are so many options. You could jump in front of the door and demand a kiss. You could follow him or her out to the car and remind them that they forgot something. You could put a post it note on the door. You could just decide to not take it personally. You could have a conversation about why this is so important to you and ask for what you want. You could hold the keys hostage and require a kiss for ransom. . . So many options ~ and so few options when we go into victim mode.

Much Love,

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