Two schools of leadership/ parenting/ supporting Is our fundamental premise that people are incompetent and need to be managed, prodded, motivated, and controlled or do people need to be unleashed and supported? The former creates dependency and hesitation. The latter creates independence and confidence. If you have created dependent people in your life then a […]
Hopeless and helpless
June 19, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Hopeless and helpless If we have a situation in our lives that we have been unable to change or even to make progress on over quite some time, there’s a very good chance that we have developed some beliefs that the situation is hopeless and that we are helpless to do anything about it. Check […]
Over-Visualization
June 18, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Over-Visualization One of the important things to remember with visualization (and affirmations) is that the feelings are the most important part. So often times when people visualize something that seems to be too big of a stretch for them, it creates feelings like doubt and disbelief and brings their energy down. When this happens then […]
Deep Identity
June 17, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Deep Identity Are you a saint that occasionally stumbles or are you a sinner that seldom gets things right? Are you inherently good or inherently bad? Are you a miracle or are you a screw up? Are you a winner or are you a loser? At a deep level, people all too often identify themselves […]
Layers of the Onion
June 16, 2016 by Leave a Comment
It is all packaging
June 15, 2016 by Leave a Comment
It is all packaging Any time that we get upset, feel bad, or harshly judge ourselves about our bodies and about how we look – we are confusing the packaging with who we really are. Tall, short, wide, thin, big nose, small nose, freckled, straight teeth, crooked teeth, six-pack abs, 1-fluffy-pack abs . . […]
A moment of grace
June 14, 2016 by Leave a Comment
A moment of grace During some quiet time today, a picture of someone I don’t like popped into my head. Immediately after that a little voice said, “You know, God loves that person too.” Pow! I don’t have to now become best friends forever with this person. However, I also don’t have a valid excuse […]
Upgraded Instant Replay
June 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Upgraded Instant Replay In volleyball you can play far better defense if you watch the hitter’s arm rather than the ball. When you do this, you can tell how hard they are hitting and where they are hitting before they ever hit the ball. If you watch the ball, you can only tell these things […]
Being present by projecting into the future
June 12, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Being present by projecting into the future Be present. Be here now. Live in the present. We’ve heard this wise advice many times in many ways. Interestingly enough, projecting into the future can actually help us be more present now. If I’m feeling the invitation to check out or the invitation to not do what […]
Cigarette Ghost
June 11, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Cigarette Ghost Unfortunately, there’s not a ghost that follows us around and burns our arms with a cigarette every time we think our crappy highly repetitive thoughts. If there was, we’d quickly connect the dots that these thoughts are very painful and in no way make our lives better (in fact, they make life much […]
