Who are you looking at? So often we end up looking outside of ourselves rather than inside of ourselves. This causes us to think and say things like ~ I’ll be happy when my sweetie gives me more attention. I’ll be happy when they stop doing that. I’ll be happy when I’m making more money. […]
Proactive self defense
April 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Proactive self defense If we know we are going to be in an environment or situation that has a high likelihood of being unpleasant or even hostile, then proactive self defense is a wise move. In the days before hand: Send love repeatedly to all the parties involved. Pray for them. Set […]
I believe in you
April 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
I believe in you Most people have learned to not believe in themselves. And, they learned this by accident through life experiences (no one sets out to not believe in themselves). Next time you catch yourself in this frame of mind, sit down quietly for a couple of minutes and imagine person after person telling […]
You DO NOT need to be fixed
April 5, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The dilemma of asking for referrals
April 4, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The dilemma of asking for referrals Oftentimes reluctance to ask for referrals comes from our need for approval and not fully owning our value. The head trash behind this goes something like this: If I really was good enough, then people would just naturally refer me. So, if I have to ask, that must mean […]
You are not the karma police
April 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
You are not the karma police Want to guaranty pain and suffering in your life? Put yourself in the position of making sure that people get what is coming to them – especially the negative consequences. Track this. Pay attention to it. Obsess over it. Whether we call this just rewards, consequences, what goes around […]
Take the wheel
April 2, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Take the wheel A while back, I was at a social event with some people who just weren’t that conversationally skilled. All they did was wait for opportunities to talk about themselves and had very little curiosity about anyone else there. I just kind of survived the event and certainly did not enjoy myself. In […]
Brighten that room
March 29, 2018 by Leave a Comment
What you think of me
March 28, 2018 by Leave a Comment
It is not about the words
March 27, 2018 by Leave a Comment
It is not about the words Sure, words matter. And, the energy and mindset behind the words communicate far more than the actual words. For example, if I say some encouraging words like “we can do this” but I am coming from “people are idiots and they need to be managed or else they will […]
