What are we relying on? When we are relying on ourselves and our limitations, it is scary to get out of our comfort zone. We don’t know what will happen. The outcome is uncertain, unpredictable, and unfamiliar. The situation can be bigger than we think we are. However, it does not have to be this […]
Ouch and breathe
October 30, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Sticks and stones
October 29, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Sticks and stones Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. But often, words do hurt us. Any time that this is the case, it means that we have become confused about our identity, that we have forgotten our worth as a human being. Somebody’s opinion never determines our worth. […]
Listening
October 28, 2017 by Leave a Comment
What would happen . . .
October 26, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Our starting point determines our outcome
October 25, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Our starting point determines our outcome If our starting point is something lousy like: I cannot do this. I’m not worthy. This is too hard. I’m destined to be mediocre. Good things don’t happen to me. Etc. Than an undesirable outcome is all but guaranteed. Oftentimes the first step to success is in upgrading our […]
Moving cows and changing the world
October 23, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Moving cows and changing the world Let’s start with a disclaimer: I am not a cow scientist so this could be inaccurate. When cows move, they don’t have a big planning meeting first to determine the optimal direction. Instead, one cow starts moving. Then another cow sees the first cow moving and thinks, “hey (not […]
It is impossible to outperform your self-image
October 21, 2017 by Leave a Comment
It is impossible to outperform your self-image In his book, Psychocybernetics, Maxwell Maltz said, “It is impossible to outperform your self-image.” It is impossible to do better than your opinion of yourself. One example of this is the shockingly large percentage of lottery winners who lose all their winnings in a matter of years. Being mega-wealthy […]
An accountability question
October 19, 2017 by Leave a Comment
An accountability question I was recently asked, “How can I hold myself accountable to taking the actions needed to move forward?” The first thing to understand is that our behaviors (no matter how frustrating they might be) always make sense when we uncover the underlying story. For example: Let’s say that I’m trying to hold […]
Circumstances
October 18, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Circumstances I received an email asking about dealing with a circumstance. Here’s my answer: Regardless of the stimulus or the circumstance (no matter how true, real, or justified it seems) – any time that we close our hearts, we lose. Never have I closed my heart and had my life get better. Never. Yes, unpleasant […]
