A New Perspective Is Needed

When we let ourselves off the hook by not doing the things we know are the “right” thing to do (e.g. exercising, eating healthy, having that difficult conversation, making phone calls etc.), we are not being kind to ourselves. We are not loving ourselves. Instead, we are hating on ourselves, we are brutalizing ourselves.

There a part of us that knows that we can do better and that we didn’t give our best. So we end up being disappointed in ourselves.

Now being disappointed in ourselves is a painful thing indeed so instead of feeling that, we stuff it and go numb ~ all of which makes us far less magnetic to our good.

What’s needed is a change in perspective ~ that doing the right thing is a tremendous expression of self-love.

Then we can have honest conversations with ourselves. “I don’t feel like __________. Do I want to let myself off the hook and delude myself that I’m being kind to myself while actually hating on myself? Or, do I want to love myself and demonstrate that love by doing what’s best for me?

Soren Kierkegaard said, “I see it all perfectly; there are two possible situations – one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it – you will regret both. … To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.”

Much love,