A Button’s Job is to Get Pushed
When we have a button, we can be supremely confident that it will get pushed. The only uncertainty is how soon until it gets pressed again.
We can see this frequently when someone gets upset and we don’t get why they are even bothered by what happened. That is because what happened pressed their button not our button.
When my mom says, “You know what ticks me off,” it is highly likely that I’ll think, “Why do you let that bother you?” It is her button, not mine.
A friend of mine was recently sharing how he had been offended. Other friends of mine who were there when it happened had a very different interpretation of what happened. It was his button, not theirs.
Now the tricky thing about this is that it is easy to see in other people but when it is our button that gets pushed – we are sure that our interpretation is the TRUTH. And consequently, we have to be hurt or offended. We don’t have to be hurt or offended.
The way to deal with our buttons is to grow ourselves so that our buttons are no longer active. Our buttons show us where we can grow.
The way not to deal with our buttons is to twist and contort our lives in an attempt to prevent access to our buttons. This never works! And unfortunately, this is the most common strategy.
Much Love,
Jonathan
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