Procrastination = Resistance We can always find a “good” reason to not do something. This procrastination happens because we have some sort of resistance to doing that thing – and often this resistance is happening at a non-conscious level, outside of our awareness. The resistance could be something like: It won’t work anyway What if […]
Relax already – we cannot see the future
July 29, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Harsh judgmental self-perception
July 26, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
Thinking of reasons to fully engage or to not fully engage
July 23, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Thinking of Reasons to Fully Engage or to Not Fully Engage We are either thinking of reasons why we shouldn’t fully engage (now’s not a good time, when ____ happens then I’ll engage, I’ll start tomorrow, and the like) or we are thinking of reasons why we should fully engage (I’m worth it, this […]
No curses accepted here
July 17, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking
July 16, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Believing our own thinking What would happen if we started to believe our own thinking less often? So much of our thinking is about limitation, reasons why not, self-doubt, and self-flagellation. Usually when we catch other people thinking that way, we know that it is garbage but then when it is our own thinking, we […]
Hard Choices
July 11, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Hard choices We frequently mistakenly think that situations and circumstances determine our responses. “That thing happened so therefore, I must be angry, or hurt, or upset.” But, there are no mandatory responses. We can always choose something different, something that is more in alignment with who we want to be and how we want to […]
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman
July 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Worst case scenarios and the boogeyman In general, focusing on worst case scenarios is not a good strategy. However, for short periods of time, this can be useful because an examined worst case scenario is usually far less horrible than the imagined worst case scenario. That scenario tends to be straight from the mind […]
Procrastination always makes sense
July 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Procrastination always makes sense We can become very frustrated with ourselves when we procrastinate. However, when we uncover the lousy or limiting story that we are telling ourselves about that action or activity, we see that procrastination is always a perfectly appropriate response to that story. The cure then is simple. Tell ourselves a different […]
Can and will
October 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
