It really is about me People often get tripped up around the idea that it is not okay to have it be about me. This can prevent people from asking for help, receiving assistance, and going for it. And this is a bunch of garbage. It is okay to be about me. In fact, it […]
Deep Identity
June 17, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Deep Identity Are you a saint that occasionally stumbles or are you a sinner that seldom gets things right? Are you inherently good or inherently bad? Are you a miracle or are you a screw up? Are you a winner or are you a loser? At a deep level, people all too often identify themselves […]
Getting Paid
June 8, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Getting Paid Say out loud, “getting paid” and notice how that feels. Does it bring up anything for you? There’s a lot of potential head trash around getting paid: Not okay to get paid for doing something I love Not okay to get paid for using my gifts Accepting praise, appreciation, and approval […]
Rejection
April 8, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Rejection Most people have a deep seated fear of rejection. And that rejection usually means: I don’t matter, I don’t belong, or I’m not enough. However, no one actually has the power to truly reject another person because rejection is just an opinion – not the truth. So when we experience rejection, we are actually […]
Compensation and Value
September 9, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Compensation and Value We are compensated to the extent that we own our value. And, most people have some work to do on owning their value and seeing what value they bring to the world. Also, sometimes we don’t recognize the true value of our gifts and talents. They are invisible to us like water […]
What Does Success Look Like?
September 3, 2015 by Leave a Comment
What Does Success Look Like? Deep down, most people think that they are not a success. But if we ask them what success looks like, they don’t know. They just know that they don’t have it right now, that where they are right now is not enough to be success. Obviously, more is needed. Since […]
A Couple of Deep Questions
August 13, 2015 by Leave a Comment
A Couple of Deep Questions What do you really believe you deserve (at a deep honest level rather than the “what-I-wish-it-was” level? How valuable are you? If your answers are not what you want them to be, that is okay. Just know that this is a valuable place for some personal growth work and that […]
Valuing Aliveness and Well-Being
August 6, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Valuing Aliveness and Well-Being Clearly we do not place a high value on being happy, feeling good, having peace of mind, or being full of vitality and aliveness. Why do I say this? Because I watch people (including myself) take things personally all the time. I watch people get all bent out of shape over […]
Essential To Be Refreshed
May 11, 2015 by Leave a Comment
I often hear people say that they feel guilty if they take any downtime or that they don’t give themselves permission to have downtime, to relax, or to play. There is time for relaxation, play, and fun (and a time for hard work)! Otherwise, what’s the point? Whenever we say something like this, it is […]
Using Emotions To Grow Yourself
April 24, 2015 by Leave a Comment
Emotions mean that something is important to us. By simply getting curious about “what here is important to me” when we are experiencing a negative emotion, we can already begin to diffuse a negative emotion. We move out of reactive consciousness and into witness or observer consciousness. We can then also learn about ourselves and […]
