Trained in Condemnation The world had trained us to condemn (ourselves and others). Kids hear things like, “you are a bad boy or girl.” Schools emphasize what we got wrong. We have heard and said “bad” and “wrong” so many times. Consequently, we have learned to think in terms of good and bad and right […]
Somehow this has to be your fault
September 30, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Somehow This Has to be Your Fault When my brother was in college, he got hit by a car while riding his bike. Instead of inquiring about my brother’s well-being (as he was lying on the pavement), the lady who hit him said, “somehow this has to be your fault.” Behavior such as this comes […]
Stopping the condemnation craze
September 22, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Stopping the Condemnation Craze We have been trained and conditioned to look at things from a good or bad, right or wrong perspective. This brings in judgment and condemnation. When we do this, we are making identity statements. ~ He is a bad person because he did that bad thing. I am a bad person […]
Identity Hit
August 20, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Identity Hit A recent client had taken an identity hit. About five years ago a few different things happened and he started to think less highly of himself, what he thought was possible diminished, his confidence and belief in himself decreased, and his joy and happiness took a beating. Of course, none of these changes […]
