Perpetually Chased by Wild Dogs Imagine being constantly chased by wild dogs. It would be exhausting and nerve wracking Metaphorically, this is how most people do life. They are running around trying to prove that they are good enough, trying to prove that they are okay. It is exhausting and nerve wracking. It is also […]
Self-condemnation is not a strategy for improvement
October 4, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Self-Condemnation is not a Strategy for Improvement Self-condemnation never has been nor ever will be a strategy for doing better or improving performance and results. However, self-condemnation runs rampant in our world. Pay attention today to how many times you say something negative to yourself. Then notice that each time we do that, it saps […]
Tolerating Rat Bites
October 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Tolerating Rat Bites We wouldn’t tolerate a rat nibbling on our toe. But we do tolerate those little negative voice that nibble away on our joy, happiness, peace of mind, and confidence. We need to realize the cost of that nibbling and “change the channel”. Much Love, Jonathan Help me out please ~ if […]
Trained in condemnation
October 2, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Trained in Condemnation The world had trained us to condemn (ourselves and others). Kids hear things like, “you are a bad boy or girl.” Schools emphasize what we got wrong. We have heard and said “bad” and “wrong” so many times. Consequently, we have learned to think in terms of good and bad and right […]
Somehow this has to be your fault
September 30, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Somehow This Has to be Your Fault When my brother was in college, he got hit by a car while riding his bike. Instead of inquiring about my brother’s well-being (as he was lying on the pavement), the lady who hit him said, “somehow this has to be your fault.” Behavior such as this comes […]
Stopping the condemnation craze
September 22, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Stopping the Condemnation Craze We have been trained and conditioned to look at things from a good or bad, right or wrong perspective. This brings in judgment and condemnation. When we do this, we are making identity statements. ~ He is a bad person because he did that bad thing. I am a bad person […]
An interesting question
September 6, 2018 by Leave a Comment
An Interesting Question Take a minute and ponder this question: What do people feel and experience when they are around you? And does the answer vary with context? Would your friends have a different answer than your family, or your coworkers, or your neighbors, or . . .? If you don’t like your answers, you […]
Looking to be saved
August 31, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Looking to Be Saved The number one piece of head trash is “I’m not enough”. Then since people believe they are not enough, they look to someone or something to save them. Obviously, this is very disempowering, and it creates a resistance to doing the simple things that move us forward (since they won’t be […]
Here to love
August 7, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Harsh judgmental self-perception
July 26, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Harsh Judgmental Self-Perception An anorexic person can look at you or me and make an accurate assessment about our size. But when they look at themselves, they are no longer seeing with their eyes. They are seeing with their mental construct of themselves, their self-image. And, that mental construct says that they are huge. This […]
