Many of us were raised under the admonition to “not toot your own horn”. This easily and frequently devolves into “don’t recognize your own value”. And when we don’t recognize our own value, we get in our own way – big time.

Say out loud, “I have value to offer” and rate how that feels on a scale of 1-10, 10 being totally true and 1 being I just threw up in my mouth a little bit.

Let’s say that feels like a six for me. That means that when I’m selling, I am energetically saying to people “there’s a 60% chance that I might be able to help you.” Then they almost always say, “there’s a 100% chance I’m not going to hire you!”

Say out loud ~ “I’m a big deal and I get paid like one. And, I’m a big deal and it is okay for others to know that.” If these aren’t a 9 or 10, you have some personal growth work to do.

(Note: this is not I’m a big deal and you aren’t nananananana! This is seeing our own greatness and seeing the greatness in others. I’m a big deal in my way and you are in your way. I’m special and so are you and neither of us is more special).

Here’s the thing – if no one in the band toots his or her own horn, there is no music! So play that horn. Play it loud and proud. And play it in a way that harmonizes with the rest of the band. When it is your turn, step into the spotlight and play your solo. Then step back and let the next person solo while you support him or her. Make beautiful music with others!

This only gets ugly when someone is all about him or herself and then they are playing the song they want to play even though the band is playing a different song – or when they think every solo belongs to them. That is a horn we don’t want to hear.

This world needs your music. We want to hear your horn (played the right way of course).

Much Love,

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