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Check Writing Resistance

by Jonathan

April 6th, 2009

Check Writing Resistance

As you might have noticed, our society is insane around the topic of money right now.

Predictions of gloom and doom are rampant. Scarcity and lack are the mindset of the day. Hoarding and imaging worst case scenarios are popular new hobbies.

Here’s a common business owner scenario: “Okay, I’m not going to spend any money for anything!!! ~ but I sure hope lots of people continue to buy from me.” Does that seem perhaps a tad bit illogical?

People are forgetting an important universal law ~ “What you focus on is what you get, whether it is what you want or what you do not want.”

Get off the terror train. Just because all the lemmings are running for the edge of the cliff does not mean it is the right thing to do!

Start focusing on what you want. Stop engaging in talk about how bad business is, about how bad the economy is. Just stop!

More millionaires were created during the great depression than at any other time in our history. Opportunities abound right now but you will never see them if you are focused on what is wrong.

OK enough of my rant and back to my topic:

Check Writing Reluctance

The other day I was talking with a client and he mentioned how reluctant his potential clients were to writing a check. They were very interested in his service but somehow it was hard to write that check.

It hit me. Well of course it is hard to write a check these days. Mass consciousness is squarely stuck in scarcity and fear. Then I realized that I had check writing reluctance too. I’d been dragging my feet about paying my bills. I’d pay them at the last possible moment. I didn’t want to write that check. I’d been infected by mass consciousness.

The good news is there is something you can do about this insanity in mass consciousness. You can create a safe haven where people can step out of the storm for a bit and catch their breath, catch their perspective.

Here’s how you do this:

1) Both visualize and intend that the person you are interacting with is inside a bubble. (I make the bubble pink because pink brings in heart energy. And, if it feels appropriate to use another colour, do so.)
2) Intend that the surface of the bubble is selective. It lets in good energy and thoughts and keeps out the negative.
3) Intend that the negative already inside the bubble is dissolved by the pink light.
4) That is it! Now give them space to make their decision.

What you have done there is you have created a buffer, a quiet space where that person can make a decision that is the right one for them without the pressure of mass consciousness. Whether they buy from you or not, you have given them a valuable gift (a respite from the insanity of mass consciousness).

Although very simple, this technique is very powerful. I have seen it literally change lives.

Wishing you great joy and success,

Jonathan Manske

Categories Law of Attraction, Mindset and Attitude
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What others are saying about you says more about them than it does about you.

by Jonathan

February 10th, 2009

What others are saying about you says more about them than it does about you.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones
but words will never hurt me.”

Although this sounds good in theory, it often breaks down in practice. We have all been hurt by words.

A friend of mine recently delivered a program to fifty people. Forty nine of the evaluations were very positive. One evaluation was critical. Guess which one my friend focused on? Not surprisingly, the critical words hurt.

Undoubtedly you have done this same thing, focused on a minority negative opinion. Consequently you have been hurt by words.

What we often forget is that the words that come out of a person’s mouth, say a lot about them. Who are they being and thinking that they see the world that way?

I can look out my window right now and say, “Wow, it looks like a wonderful day.” I can also say, ” Uhhmm, it looks cold out.” It is the same day!

These two different mindsets/perspectives will create two very different starts to my day. The first fills me with optimism and good feelings. The second fills me with wanting to go back to bed.

These two sentences also comment on the state of my being. I’m either being optimistic or pessimistic.

Back to my friend: I invited him to consider what the negative review said about the person who gave that review. Who was the reviewer being that she would see the world that way? What was going on in her that she would say the things she did?

My friend got it. That review didn’t have anything to do with him and yet he was taking it personally. (Now obviously this would be different if the majority of the reviews were negative. Then he should take a look at himself.) All of a sudden the words did not hurt anymore.

Action steps

Whenever you experience being hurt by words, stop and ask yourself, ” Is this saying something about me or about them?”

If it is saying something about them, why would you take it personally?

Chances are that if you see it is saying something about them, you will move into compassion rather than hurt.

Wishing you great joy and success!

Jonathan Manske

Categories Mindset and Attitude
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A Cure for The Shoulds

by Jonathan

January 6th, 2009

A Cure for The Shoulds

If you are a breathing human being, there is a very good chance that you have pressured yourself using the words: should, must and/or need to.

There is also a very good chance that you do this on a regular basis.

Every time that you do this, your quality of life takes a hit, your vitality decreases, your resistance increases and you pressure yourself. (The only thing that thrives on pressure is a tire.)

In general, people do not like to be told what to do and any time they are told what to do, there is a flare of resistance. This is true even if it is you telling yourself what to do.

Should, must and need to are very compulsive words that make you lose perspective. As soon as you use these words, you lose options and choice.

Rather than trying to quit “shoulding” which would be hard work since this is an established habit, let’s use this habit strategically.

Every time that you catch yourself using should, must or need to have that be a wake up call. “Oh I’m stuck in a habit here.” Then change that word to “could”. “Could” allows you to explore, to evaluate your options and make a decision that serves you rather than a decision determined by compulsion and pressure.

Then you can choose to do it or to not do it. And, if you choose not to do it there won’t be any guilt.

Wishing you great joy and success,

Jonathan Manske

Categories Mindset and Attitude, Non-Conscious Programming
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The Law of Attraction in Times of High Uncertainty

by Jonathan

October 15th, 2008

The Law of Attraction in Times of High Uncertainty

Stating the obvious, we are experiencing a period of high uncertainty and most people are “freaking out” about it.

The big problem with “freaking out” is that worry, anxiety and panic never improve a situation. The basic premise of The Law of Attraction is that whatever you give your attention, energy and focus to is what you get – whether wanted or unwanted.

FOCUS
Well, what are most people focusing on? Disaster, impending doom, catastrophe, fear, loss, hardship, uncertain times, financial ruin, being a victim – the list goes on.

Hopping onto this bandwagon of negative focus is absolutely the worst thing you can do for yourself right now. All you are doing is attracting more of the same into your life.

I used to teach a mountain biking class. One of the skills I taught was how to ride through a tight space: such as between two trees. To do this, you must focus on what you want, the space. As soon as you focus on what you do not want, the trees, you will probably run right into them. This will hurt.

Right now, there are a lot of people focusing on the “trees”. This will hurt!

Instead of focusing on the “trees”, focus on what you want!

PERSPECTIVE and LABELS
Perspective is how you look at things. How are you looking at the current situation?

During the great depression, more millionaires were made than at any other time in our history. Those who made their millions then saw an opportunity where the majority saw a crisis.

Your perspective gives rise to the labels you use. Labels then determine how you interact with something. You will interact differently with something you label “good” versus something you label “bad” or an “opportunity” versus a “threat”.

I guarantee you that there are a lot of successful people out there who are seeing the current situation as a tremendous opportunity.

Warren Buffet is buying by the wheelbarrow full right now.

PERSPECTIVE II
Most problems tend to diminish when we get a bigger perspective. A bigger perspective can be quite useful here as well.

All systems move through cycles and phases. They have their ups and their downs. The real estate market, the economy and the stock market are all systems.

This too shall pass!

DISSIPATIVE STRUCTURES
Noble Prize winning chemist Ilya Prigogine created the theory of dissipative structures.

Without going into what a dissipative structure is, we can take some useful information from this model. It provides us with a way to manage chaos and uncertainty in our lives without becoming a victim to it.

The model shows us that under certain conditions a system becomes increasingly unstable and reaches a point where it can no longer maintain or reorganize itself. At this point, the point of bifurcation, the system has to change. It will either jump to a higher level of organization or break down and reorganize at a lower level of organization.

The period of time while this is happening is called the period of perturbation. It is a time of high chaos and fluctuating energy. Chaos always precedes the shift.

We are now experiencing the chaos that precedes the shift. The system will reorganize.

SERVICE
Looking for the opportunities to serve is a way to thrive in the chaos. Be of service to others. Be of use. See what others need and then provide it. (That sounds like a definition of entrepreneurship)

COLLECTIVE CONSCIOUSNESS
The more you panic, the more you feed the monster and the bigger the problem becomes.

Stay positive, focus on what you want and know that this too shall pass!

Wishing you great joy and tremendous success,

Jonathan Manske