Experiences Create Expectations Our expectations are often based on what we have experienced. And, this process tends to happen automatically and non-consciously rather than intentionally. So, we don’t even know that we have these expectations. This dynamic then often has us get in our own way because we create limiting self-fulfilling prophecies. For example, ~ […]
I believe in you
April 10, 2018 by Leave a Comment
I believe in you Most people have learned to not believe in themselves. And, they learned this by accident through life experiences (no one sets out to not believe in themselves). Next time you catch yourself in this frame of mind, sit down quietly for a couple of minutes and imagine person after person telling […]
You are not the karma police
April 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
You are not the karma police Want to guaranty pain and suffering in your life? Put yourself in the position of making sure that people get what is coming to them – especially the negative consequences. Track this. Pay attention to it. Obsess over it. Whether we call this just rewards, consequences, what goes around […]
Won’t do vs. can do
September 18, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Super frustrating
August 24, 2017 by Leave a Comment
Super frustrating I’m not sure if there is anything more frustrating than doing what seems to be all the right things but not getting the results that you should be getting or that others are getting. This can just about drive a person crazy. But there is more to this than just what we are […]
Blaming the thermometer
July 15, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Blaming the thermometer If the thermometer tells us that we have a fever, do we think that it is the thermometer that is causing our problems or is the thermometer simply an indicator that something is going on? Our “defective” behaviors are not the cause of our problems. They are an indicator that something is […]
Breathing is a good idea
July 13, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Breathing is a good idea My daughter and I spent about 4 hours today at The Epic Sky Trek Challenge, an aerial trekking course with over 110 challenging elements. Early on as I was navigating a couple of the elements, I noticed that I wasn’t breathing. As soon as I started breathing deeper, I relaxed. […]
Our identity is a conversation
July 4, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Our identity is a conversation We create all kinds of limiting identities without even knowing it. We have stuff like: I’m the kind of person who struggles with money. I’m the kind of person who has limited success. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t get what he wants. I’m the kind of person who […]
Talking in or talking out?
June 5, 2016 by Leave a Comment
Pavlov and my dog
March 25, 2016 by Leave a Comment
