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Trust . . . What Does It Really Mean?

by Jonathan

June 17th, 2008

Trust . . . What Does It Really Mean

Trust is a concept that seems to create quite a bit of confusion.

I often see this with my clients. They have non-conscious programming that it is not okay to trust others, that it is not safe to trust others, or that they are not able to trust others.

This non-conscious programming gets in their way because - All good things come to us from others! If you cannot trust others, you make it much more difficult for that "good" to come into your life.

The issue is that people don’t understand what trust means. You can trust and also take care of yourself at the same time.

Trust is not some sort of eyes closed, blind faith, Pollyanna sort of thing. "I trust that he or she is inherently good and will treat me right."

Real trust requires that you be awake and observant and that you see who people are and what they do. Trust then is trusting them to be true to themselves, to be true to their patterns.

There’s an old Chinese proverb that speaks to this: Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

We are creatures of habit and pattern. We do the same things over and over and over. Once someone shows you what he or she does, you should expect them to (you should trust them to) do that again. Whether it is something positive or negative, something you like or dislike, they will do it again.

If we have a meeting and I am 10 minutes late you should not be surprised if I am late for our next meeting. If I’m late for the second meeting you definitely should not be surprised that I am late for the third meeting. I have showed you my pattern and you should trust me to be true to that pattern.

Trust needs to then be balanced with acting in your own best interest and with your own boundaries. You can trust me to be late to meetings but if that does not work for you then you should not be doing business with me.

Many years ago we bought a house to fix and flip. Our contractor showed us his patterns repeatedly. He over promised, under delivered, and his word met nothing.

Unfortunately for our bank account, I was in eyes closed, not dealing with reality, Pollyanna trust. I kept thinking – he’s a good guy; he will take care of us because that is what I would do. I was not dealing with reality. If I was I would have fired him and got someone in who would have got the job done right.

He had repeatedly shown us who he is and what he’s going to do and instead of trusting him to continue to be who he is, I was off in fantasy land. There was a huge cost to this – financially, peace of mind, stress and frustration.

Real trust then has you have your eyes wide open – dealing with what is really there – and then taking the appropriate steps to act in your own best interest.

Why Am I Not Getting What I Want?

by Jonathan

May 8th, 2008

Why Am I Not Getting What I Want?

You know about the Law of Attraction. You know how to work with the Law of Attraction and are diligently doing so. You are doing all the right things. Yet, you do not seem to be getting what you want. Why? What is going on?

If this is the case, one of four different factors is in play or possibly a combination of them.

These four factors are:

Focusing on what you do not want
The Law of Timing
Not really wanting what you think you want
Non-conscious programming

Focusing on what you do not want

We have an amazing capacity to focus on what we do not want. This causes problems because the basis of the Law of Attraction is that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on – whether wanted or unwanted.

Check it out for yourself. Just listen to people. Over and over and over they talk about what they do not want. “I don’t want to struggle anymore.” “I don’t want to be in debt.” “I don’t want to fight with my spouse anymore.” And so on.

Even if you know what you want, you could be focusing on what you do not want.

Take a look at your focus. What are you focusing on? Are you primarily focusing on what you want or on what you do not want?

If you are doing the latter, switch your focus to what you want. For more information on this see “The U-Turn” under the blog tab at JonathanManske.com

The Law of Timing

The Law of Attraction is a universal law. It affects everyone. Another universal law is the Law of Timing. Day follows night. The seasons change. The tide comes in and then goes out. Babies grow for nine months inside their mothers before entering the world.

Would you plant a corn seed today and expect to eat corn on the cob tomorrow? What about next week? How about in a couple of months?

Sometimes you just need to trust and be patient. You also need to keep on taking the right actions and continue focusing on what you want.

Not really wanting what you think you want

I often see this with my clients. On one level they want one thing but on another deeper level (that they are not aware of) they want something different. This puts them in conflict with themselves.

Ask yourself, “Is this what I really want?” and then sit with the question. Let it simmer and sink in deeper. “Is this what I really want?”

Pay attention to your body. Does what you want feel “right”? If not, there is something deeper so keep exploring.

Non-conscious programming

If you are not getting what you want, chances are very good that you have some non-conscious programming that is in your way.

Science has proven that 97% of what goes on inside your head is non-conscious programming. It is automatic, habitual and repetitive. Some of this programming supports you and some of it does not.

If you have a conscious desire that is in opposition to your non-conscious programming, it will be very difficult to achieve your desire if you achieve it at all.

That is why it is so important to know how to first identify and then change limiting non-conscious programming.

If you send an email to contact me, I will send you my article, “How to Change Your Non-Conscious Programming”.

If you want someone to assist you, I recommend: NLP, PSYCH-K, Hypnosis and one-on-one work with me.

Categories Law of Attraction, Mindset and Attitude, Non-Conscious Programming
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Coming of Age

by Jonathan

May 7th, 2008

Coming of Age

Do you ever wonder if your best is good enough?
Do you worry that “they” will discover that you don’t quite measure up or even that you are a fraud?
Do you have a difficult time accepting and appreciating your successes?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, you are not alone. Most people have some degree of self-doubt and insecurity, which gets in the way of truly enjoying your life and career.

A major contributor to these dis-empowering thoughts is the lack of coming-of-age rituals in our modern society. If you have not been confirmed as a real man or real woman by family, tribe or society and subsequently initiated into that world, then how can you know that you are indeed a real man or woman? In the absence of knowing your place in the community of men or in the community of women, it is natural to doubt yourself.

The good news is: you can transform your self-doubt into belonging. Here is how:

Take a moment to get relaxed and quiet.
Close your eyes and put both hands over your heart.
Speak out loud, “I see and accept you as a man among men!” or “I see and accept you as a woman among women!”
Keep repeating this until you feel a change within you (probably a minute or two).
Do this daily for 7 days.

When you say, “I see you”, imagine the voice of your spirit, the voice of God, or the collective voice of your ancestors. Experiment and see which “voice” is the strongest or mix it up.

Until we talk again:

Know that I see you as a real man in the community of men.

Know that I see you as a real woman in the community of women.

Wishing you great joy and success in your life!

Jonathan

Categories Law of Attraction, Mindset and Attitude, Non-Conscious Programming
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The U-Turn: Fast food or spinach salad

by Jonathan

May 7th, 2008

I imagine you know the importance of focusing on what you want. However, if you are like most of us, you often find yourself focusing on what you do not want. In effect, this has you headed the wrong direction.

Most people are really good at focusing on what they do not want. Test this out for yourself. Ask several people what they want and then listen. Very soon they will likely be talking about what they do not want.

The other day I asked a client what she wanted for her business. Within three sentences she was talking about what she did not want. She did not want to worry about cash flow. She did not want to worry about the business succeeding. She did not want to feel like she always had to be working.

She was focusing on what she did not want rather than on what she did want. This creates a problem because what you focus on expands.

The basic tenet of the Law of Attraction is: You attract into your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to. This is true whether you are focusing on the wanted or the unwanted.

Knowing what you do not want is not a bad thing. In fact, it can be tremendously useful. However, it is a bad place to stop.

If I am clear that I do not want fast food for lunch, then I need to take the next step and figure out what I do want. If I stop with, "I do not want fast food", there is no forward action. There is no possibility. There is no satisfying lunch in my future. I am stuck.

The trick to moving forward is to use the words "I do not want" as a reminder to ask yourself “What do I want?"

“I do not want fast food.” Well then, “What do I want?” Hmmmm, “I want something healthy, I want a spinach salad.”

In this example, I discovered what I want and now I can get it.

When you do this, you are making The U-turn .

You want The U-turn to become automatic so that as soon as you hear yourself say, "I do not want" you immediately ask yourself, "Well then, what do I want?"

The more often you make The U-turn , the better your life becomes!

Categories Law of Attraction, Mindset and Attitude, Non-Conscious Programming
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