Self-Condemnation is not a Strategy for Improvement Self-condemnation never has been nor ever will be a strategy for doing better or improving performance and results. However, self-condemnation runs rampant in our world. Pay attention today to how many times you say something negative to yourself. Then notice that each time we do that, it saps […]
Tolerating Rat Bites
October 3, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Tolerating Rat Bites We wouldn’t tolerate a rat nibbling on our toe. But we do tolerate those little negative voice that nibble away on our joy, happiness, peace of mind, and confidence. We need to realize the cost of that nibbling and “change the channel”. Much Love, Jonathan Help me out please ~ if […]
Trained in condemnation
October 2, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Trained in Condemnation The world had trained us to condemn (ourselves and others). Kids hear things like, “you are a bad boy or girl.” Schools emphasize what we got wrong. We have heard and said “bad” and “wrong” so many times. Consequently, we have learned to think in terms of good and bad and right […]
The opposite of maturity
October 1, 2018 by Leave a Comment
The Opposite of Maturity If we use indulgence as the opposite of maturity, then maturity can be defined as our ability to make wise choices due to our ability to delay gratification. Immaturity has us make a lot of poor choices because we want instant gratification without any thought to the long-term consequences. This has […]
Somehow this has to be your fault
September 30, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Somehow This Has to be Your Fault When my brother was in college, he got hit by a car while riding his bike. Instead of inquiring about my brother’s well-being (as he was lying on the pavement), the lady who hit him said, “somehow this has to be your fault.” Behavior such as this comes […]
Blind spots
September 28, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Choosing between trash and beauty
September 27, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Choosing Between Trash and Beauty We can be standing in front of a beautiful nature scene and give our focus and attention to the piece of litter at our feet. We can be standing in front of the landfill and give our focus and attention to the wildflowers growing at our feet. We always get […]
Happiness is not conditional. Happiness is a choice.
September 26, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Happiness is Not Conditional. Happiness is a Choice. We often think that happiness is conditional and that if that one thing would change – then we could truly be happy. But that’s not the way we work or are wired. We will just change the target of happiness and continue to practice the habit of […]
We’ve all got our stories
September 25, 2018 by Leave a Comment
We’ve All Got Our Stories I’ve got a friend who is talented, kind, successful, loved, respected, appreciated, and blessed. And this friend also has a personality quirk that does not at all fit with the things mentioned in the previous sentence. I had wondered about this incongruity and then I learned his back story. Instantly, […]
Stopping the condemnation craze
September 22, 2018 by Leave a Comment
Stopping the Condemnation Craze We have been trained and conditioned to look at things from a good or bad, right or wrong perspective. This brings in judgment and condemnation. When we do this, we are making identity statements. ~ He is a bad person because he did that bad thing. I am a bad person […]
